Every woman wants to have a dream marriage proposal and
wedding. This dream proposal doesn't necessarily mean it'll be grand but let it
be as the woman envisioned it. They talk about this often. How often do you
ever hear women talk about having a dream marriage? Just be honest with your
answer whether you are a man or woman. That brings me to the question; “Which
is more important, the marriage proposal or the marriage proper?” The proposal
to me is the destination of few weeks, months or years dating/courtship journey
while marriage is a lifelong journey. But with the invention of the device
called divorce, marriage can last a few hours.
“Which is more important, the marriage proposal or the
marriage proper?”
I have often wondered which is more important. The
question can be likened to a similar question like “which is more important the
journey or the destination?” This is a million dollar question which we will
try to answer. Is there even an objective way to answer this question? Opinions differ for sure. A few
women I discussed this with all said marriage proposal is important and needs
to be a very romantic and memorable. I quite agree with them. BUT none of them
was able to categorically say, yes marriage proposal is more important than
marriage itself and vice versa. Is it me or is it just the way God wired women?
I can categorically tell you anytime any day that
marriage is more important than marriage proposal. Maybe that’s how me or men
are wired. Marriage is a long term journey and the proposal is a few minutes
event. I don't know about you, as for me;
"I Rather Have A Shitty Marriage Proposal And Have A
Blissful Marriage Than A Blissful Marriage Proposal And Shitty
Marriage" - Scopium NwabuKing
Some People Take The Proposal More Seriously Than The
Wedding Vows
It is so wrong to do so. With divorce rate soon to
overtake rate of marriage, one wonders what really pushed the couples to get
married. That entire perfect dream proposal lasted only a few years of wedding
anniversaries, are you kidding me?
What is the essence of a dream marriage proposal if the
marriage is only going to last a few weeks? Then the woman may as well just
pick out a ring while the man watches a football match. Yeah I know you'll say
nobody goes into a marriage hoping for it to fall apart few years down the
line. It falls apart because priorities are misplaced. The less important event
is treated as the most important. And the most important journey is relegated
to the background.
I'm not saying that marriage proposals aren’t essential.
Like I said before They are important. They can serve as a great jumping off
point for the sometimes grueling process of planning a wedding. Honestly,
creative proposals are the best. The kind when the guy proposes in a way that
is romantically meaningful and unique to the couple.
Does It Really Matter How A Man Proposes To A Woman?
Are there women who would turn down marriage or be
genuinely upset if he didn’t propose the “right” way? If so what is the
"right" way? Are there women who would say yes to a boyfriend she
didn’t necessarily want to marry simply because he asked in a stunning fashion?
I wonder what single women including you reading this have in mind as their
“dream proposal” and what happens if the reality is nothing like they dreamt?
If you have dated this person for some time and you still
don’t know each other very well as to make a bad proposal, what else do you
know well about your future spouse? What else can your future spouse do well?
One in four brides hated the way their future husband
proposed. Twenty-six per cent of brides-to-be said that they wished the moment
had been more romantic, original or personal. Others would have preferred it to
be more private or complained that it was too over-the-top special, and a third said
that the biggest faux pas was proposing without a ring.
I totally agree with the women on proposing without a
ring, how dumb is that? How can you not propose with the engagement ring?
Listed Below Is A Few DON’TS About Marriage Proposal
Don’t Propose Empty-Handed
Don't Propose Too Early in the Relationship
Don't Make it Public Or In Front of an Audience
Don't Hide the Engagement Ring in Food
Don't Propose at a Sports Game
Don't Do it in Front of Her Family
Don't Make it Too Complicated
Don't Expect Her to Say Yes Immediately
Don’t Do It At The Wrong Moment
Most Nigerian single women want their single Nigerian men
to shower western version of love on them especially when it comes to marriage
proposal but they still retain core African attitude towards some of western
romantic gestures. For instance an average Nigerian woman will never value
being bought flowers fresh or plastic. Their spoken or unspoken sentiment is;
''na flower I go chop?'' meaning 'Is it flower that I will eat?' Or something
like; ''Do I look like a goat wey dey eat grass to you?''
A simple, romantic but not over-the-top proposal is
necessary, please always remember it is not the end itself. It's a means to
achieving an end. There are a few tips to bear in mind for the great marriage
proposal.
Listed Below Is A Few DOS Of Marriage Proposal
Do Find The Right Engagement Ring
Do Test the Waters
Do Make it a Surprise
Do Be Prepared
Do Pick A Memorable/Personal Spot
Do Be Creative
Do Drop to One Knee
Do Tell Her Why You Want to Marry Her
I have seen a lot proposal failures and I think to myself
does it really worth it? Dude please save yourself the misery and just keep it
simply simple
It is very possible to have both a shitty marriage
proposal and a shitty marriage or have both a blissful marriage proposal and a
blissful marriage. No problem if you end with the latter. If you can have best
of both worlds that is awesome. That's my desire for everyone. But if you must
have one at cost of the other, please it has to be the long term journey which
is The Marriage and not the short term destination which is The Marriage
Proposal. It is important you don't let your marriage last as long as your
grand spectacular dream marriage proposal.
That's my opinion on this, I would love to hear yours and learn from you. Let me know what you think via the comment box.
Every woman wants to have a dream marriage proposal and
wedding. This dream proposal doesn't necessarily mean it'll be grand but let it
be as the woman envisioned it. They talk about this often. How often do you
ever hear women talk about having a dream marriage? Just be honest with your
answer whether you are a man or woman. That brings me to the question; “Which
is more important, the marriage proposal or the marriage proper?” The proposal
to me is the destination of few weeks, months or years dating/courtship journey
while marriage is a lifelong journey. But with the invention of the device
called divorce, marriage can last a few hours.
“Which is more important, the marriage proposal or the
marriage proper?”
I have often wondered which is more important. The
question can be likened to a similar question like “which is more important the
journey or the destination?” This is a million dollar question which we will
try to answer. Is there even an objective way to answer this question? Opinions differ for sure. A few
women I discussed this with all said marriage proposal is important and needs
to be a very romantic and memorable. I quite agree with them. BUT none of them
was able to categorically say, yes marriage proposal is more important than
marriage itself and vice versa. Is it me or is it just the way God wired women?
I can categorically tell you anytime any day that
marriage is more important than marriage proposal. Maybe that’s how me or men
are wired. Marriage is a long term journey and the proposal is a few minutes
event. I don't know about you, as for me;
"I Rather Have A Shitty Marriage Proposal And Have A
Blissful Marriage Than A Blissful Marriage Proposal And Shitty
Marriage" - Scopium NwabuKing
Some People Take The Proposal More Seriously Than The
Wedding Vows
It is so wrong to do so. With divorce rate soon to
overtake rate of marriage, one wonders what really pushed the couples to get
married. That entire perfect dream proposal lasted only a few years of wedding
anniversaries, are you kidding me?
What is the essence of a dream marriage proposal if the
marriage is only going to last a few weeks? Then the woman may as well just
pick out a ring while the man watches a football match. Yeah I know you'll say
nobody goes into a marriage hoping for it to fall apart few years down the
line. It falls apart because priorities are misplaced. The less important event
is treated as the most important. And the most important journey is relegated
to the background.
I'm not saying that marriage proposals aren’t essential.
Like I said before They are important. They can serve as a great jumping off
point for the sometimes grueling process of planning a wedding. Honestly,
creative proposals are the best. The kind when the guy proposes in a way that
is romantically meaningful and unique to the couple.
Does It Really Matter How A Man Proposes To A Woman?
Are there women who would turn down marriage or be
genuinely upset if he didn’t propose the “right” way? If so what is the
"right" way? Are there women who would say yes to a boyfriend she
didn’t necessarily want to marry simply because he asked in a stunning fashion?
I wonder what single women including you reading this have in mind as their
“dream proposal” and what happens if the reality is nothing like they dreamt?
If you have dated this person for some time and you still
don’t know each other very well as to make a bad proposal, what else do you
know well about your future spouse? What else can your future spouse do well?
One in four brides hated the way their future husband
proposed. Twenty-six per cent of brides-to-be said that they wished the moment
had been more romantic, original or personal. Others would have preferred it to
be more private or complained that it was too over-the-top special, and a third said
that the biggest faux pas was proposing without a ring.
I totally agree with the women on proposing without a
ring, how dumb is that? How can you not propose with the engagement ring?
Listed Below Is A Few DON’TS About Marriage Proposal
Don’t Propose Empty-Handed
Don't Propose Too Early in the Relationship
Don't Make it Public Or In Front of an Audience
Don't Hide the Engagement Ring in Food
Don't Propose at a Sports Game
Don't Do it in Front of Her Family
Don't Make it Too Complicated
Don't Expect Her to Say Yes Immediately
Don’t Do It At The Wrong Moment
Most Nigerian single women want their single Nigerian men
to shower western version of love on them especially when it comes to marriage
proposal but they still retain core African attitude towards some of western
romantic gestures. For instance an average Nigerian woman will never value
being bought flowers fresh or plastic. Their spoken or unspoken sentiment is;
''na flower I go chop?'' meaning 'Is it flower that I will eat?' Or something
like; ''Do I look like a goat wey dey eat grass to you?''
A simple, romantic but not over-the-top proposal is
necessary, please always remember it is not the end itself. It's a means to
achieving an end. There are a few tips to bear in mind for the great marriage
proposal.
Listed Below Is A Few DOS Of Marriage Proposal
Do Find The Right Engagement Ring
Do Test the Waters
Do Make it a Surprise
Do Be Prepared
Do Pick A Memorable/Personal Spot
Do Be Creative
Do Drop to One Knee
Do Tell Her Why You Want to Marry Her
I have seen a lot proposal failures and I think to myself
does it really worth it? Dude please save yourself the misery and just keep it
simply simple
It is very possible to have both a shitty marriage
proposal and a shitty marriage or have both a blissful marriage proposal and a
blissful marriage. No problem if you end with the latter. If you can have best
of both worlds that is awesome. That's my desire for everyone. But if you must
have one at cost of the other, please it has to be the long term journey which
is The Marriage and not the short term destination which is The Marriage
Proposal. It is important you don't let your marriage last as long as your
grand spectacular dream marriage proposal.
That's my opinion on this, I would love to hear yours and learn from you. Let me know what you think via the comment box.
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