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Monday, 18 November 2013

Things That Kids Say, Parenting, Kids
Parenting: Amazing Things That Kids Say
Kids are amazing gift from God. You just gotta love kids in their element, they some amazing things and gestures and also say some amazing things. I don’t have any yet but I love the ones around me and play with them a lot. I also caution them properly when the occasion demands it. The things that kids say never cease to amaze me. They exhibit wisdom way beyond their age sometimes.

My elder cousin’s 4 year old son revealed something to the father recently. The dad had picked him up from school and was heading home when he said it. This little boy is a passionate and very interesting kid. Kids just say these amazing things innocently just the way their little pure minds can grasp them. This is where the work load of parents are tested in making the kid reinforce the thought process or activity that lead to these startling things kids say or reject it and any future occurrence.

The little boy said;

4 yr old : Daddy do you know what my girlfriend told me?
Daddy  : No I don’t know. What did she tell you buddy?
4 yr old : She said I can tell her anything I want

The daddy’s eyes popped wide open, he laughed hard and then tells the 4 year old son with girlfriend issues…

Daddy : Don’t tell her anything that’s how they deceive us

He was still laughing hard. The son would’ve been a bit disappointed. He is fond of saying funny amazing things like this. I wondered what kinda conversation between male and female 4 year olds that they were having. But you know the best part of parents-kids bonding and intimacy is when you have kids that can tell their parents anything, kids that can confide in their parents. It makes it so easy to keep track of what your kids do and reduce the burden of parenting. It gives a clear glimpse into the mind of that child. It makes you fully aware of what happened in your absence so you make commendations or corrections.

Also Read: Why My Kids Are Not My World

So if there is anything bothering the kid like any bullying, sexual harassment or any kind of red flags will be nipped in the bud. It is every parents duty to strive and create sustain an ideal communication culture with their kids better understanding and raising better children.


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Parenting: Amazing Things That Kids Say

Nwabu King  |  at   11:29 am  |  No comments

Things That Kids Say, Parenting, Kids
Parenting: Amazing Things That Kids Say
Kids are amazing gift from God. You just gotta love kids in their element, they some amazing things and gestures and also say some amazing things. I don’t have any yet but I love the ones around me and play with them a lot. I also caution them properly when the occasion demands it. The things that kids say never cease to amaze me. They exhibit wisdom way beyond their age sometimes.

My elder cousin’s 4 year old son revealed something to the father recently. The dad had picked him up from school and was heading home when he said it. This little boy is a passionate and very interesting kid. Kids just say these amazing things innocently just the way their little pure minds can grasp them. This is where the work load of parents are tested in making the kid reinforce the thought process or activity that lead to these startling things kids say or reject it and any future occurrence.

The little boy said;

4 yr old : Daddy do you know what my girlfriend told me?
Daddy  : No I don’t know. What did she tell you buddy?
4 yr old : She said I can tell her anything I want

The daddy’s eyes popped wide open, he laughed hard and then tells the 4 year old son with girlfriend issues…

Daddy : Don’t tell her anything that’s how they deceive us

He was still laughing hard. The son would’ve been a bit disappointed. He is fond of saying funny amazing things like this. I wondered what kinda conversation between male and female 4 year olds that they were having. But you know the best part of parents-kids bonding and intimacy is when you have kids that can tell their parents anything, kids that can confide in their parents. It makes it so easy to keep track of what your kids do and reduce the burden of parenting. It gives a clear glimpse into the mind of that child. It makes you fully aware of what happened in your absence so you make commendations or corrections.

Also Read: Why My Kids Are Not My World

So if there is anything bothering the kid like any bullying, sexual harassment or any kind of red flags will be nipped in the bud. It is every parents duty to strive and create sustain an ideal communication culture with their kids better understanding and raising better children.


Now It’s Your Turn. Please Don't FORGET To SHARE This POST, Your Friends Might Need It! Feel Free To Leave Your COMMENTS. Your FEEDBACK And COMMENTS Are Always Appreciated. :-)
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Wednesday, 26 June 2013

One Million Minutes Of Family Bonding Moments
News coming out of Kuala Lumpur has it that more than 6,500 Malaysians were treated to an enjoyable family movie viewing experience recently in Oreo’s nationwide effort to promote family togetherness.

Oreo’s “One Million Minutes of Bonding Moments” campaign resulted in a total of over five million minutes of bonding moments dedicated by loyal Malaysian families.

In our hectic lifestyles, families are encouraged to spend quality time with their family and indulge in enriching their relationships between one another.

“We believe that family relationships are worth investing in as they will carry us through every season in life and we hope that this experience has truly strengthened the bonds within Malaysian families across the country,” said Ben Summons, Marketing Director of Kraft Foods Malaysia.

At the event, families young and old were seen enjoying their time together while spending time with each other over the family-friendly comedy movie – the latest Monsters University.

“This has been a wonderful and enjoyable experience with my family. As a working dad, sometimes I can get so caught up with work that I allow myself to miss opportunities to bond with my kids. I agree that everyone can make time for special moments to bond with their family every day,” said Mohamad Hanif, father of two children.

This effort is to encourage Malaysians to continue dedicating precious minutes of bonding moments with their families because at the of the day, every little moment counts and bonding moments go a long way in bringing families closer together.

As we might remember from a Disney movie ‘Lilo and Stitch’ where Lilo said 'Ohana means family, family means nobody gets left behind. Or forgotten.’

One Million Minutes Of Family Bonding Moments

Nwabu King  |  at   3:07 pm  |  No comments

One Million Minutes Of Family Bonding Moments
News coming out of Kuala Lumpur has it that more than 6,500 Malaysians were treated to an enjoyable family movie viewing experience recently in Oreo’s nationwide effort to promote family togetherness.

Oreo’s “One Million Minutes of Bonding Moments” campaign resulted in a total of over five million minutes of bonding moments dedicated by loyal Malaysian families.

In our hectic lifestyles, families are encouraged to spend quality time with their family and indulge in enriching their relationships between one another.

“We believe that family relationships are worth investing in as they will carry us through every season in life and we hope that this experience has truly strengthened the bonds within Malaysian families across the country,” said Ben Summons, Marketing Director of Kraft Foods Malaysia.

At the event, families young and old were seen enjoying their time together while spending time with each other over the family-friendly comedy movie – the latest Monsters University.

“This has been a wonderful and enjoyable experience with my family. As a working dad, sometimes I can get so caught up with work that I allow myself to miss opportunities to bond with my kids. I agree that everyone can make time for special moments to bond with their family every day,” said Mohamad Hanif, father of two children.

This effort is to encourage Malaysians to continue dedicating precious minutes of bonding moments with their families because at the of the day, every little moment counts and bonding moments go a long way in bringing families closer together.

As we might remember from a Disney movie ‘Lilo and Stitch’ where Lilo said 'Ohana means family, family means nobody gets left behind. Or forgotten.’
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Wednesday, 19 June 2013

Couple Celebrate Platinum Anniversary 87 Years Posing As Groom And Bride At Age 4
Ron and Eileen Everest at age 4 (left), on their wedding day in 1943 (center) and in 2013 (right)
This is so amazing. If love like this and a soul-mate match like this was plenty in this world, divorce rate won't be astronomically high! And the good Lord kept them thus far. I'm in AWE! It brings tears to my eye.

There's a lesson to learn here from this wonderful couple. Relationship is perpetual commitment not commitment of convenience.

According to Dailymail

Ron and Eileen Everest never knew a world without each other. They were born in the same hospital. Ron and Eileen were born in 1921 and 1922 respectively and have been friends practically from birth.
As 4-year-olds, they posed as bride and groom in a pretend wedding at a carnival. Later, barely out of their teens, they married for real.

And this year, 87 years after that old photo was taken, the one they fondly refer to as their first wedding rehearsal, the British couple are celebrating their platinum anniversary after 70 years of marriage.

"We have been in love from the age of zero," Ron tells the Telegraph. "We were born in the same maternity hospital – we might have even been born in the same bed."

It wasn't fate, necessarily. In fact, Eileen took some convincing before she eventually agreed to marry Ron in 1943.

"I did not think much of Ron at all," she tells the Daily Mail. "But I did think he looked handsome in his Navy uniform. To be honest, I liked the look of the uniform more than him."

Couple Celebrate Platinum Anniversary 87 Years Posing As Groom And Bride At Age 4
But 70 years after their wedding day, they can look back and see just how special their bond has been.

"We have had our ups and downs, but we have always got on," Eileen says.
Adds Ron: "We promised to love, honor and obey – and I did all the obeying."
Anyway, there's no backing out now. As Eileen says: "I think we will stay together forever."

Couple Celebrate Platinum Anniversary 87 Years After Posing As Groom And Bride At Age 4

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Couple Celebrate Platinum Anniversary 87 Years Posing As Groom And Bride At Age 4
Ron and Eileen Everest at age 4 (left), on their wedding day in 1943 (center) and in 2013 (right)
This is so amazing. If love like this and a soul-mate match like this was plenty in this world, divorce rate won't be astronomically high! And the good Lord kept them thus far. I'm in AWE! It brings tears to my eye.

There's a lesson to learn here from this wonderful couple. Relationship is perpetual commitment not commitment of convenience.

According to Dailymail

Ron and Eileen Everest never knew a world without each other. They were born in the same hospital. Ron and Eileen were born in 1921 and 1922 respectively and have been friends practically from birth.
As 4-year-olds, they posed as bride and groom in a pretend wedding at a carnival. Later, barely out of their teens, they married for real.

And this year, 87 years after that old photo was taken, the one they fondly refer to as their first wedding rehearsal, the British couple are celebrating their platinum anniversary after 70 years of marriage.

"We have been in love from the age of zero," Ron tells the Telegraph. "We were born in the same maternity hospital – we might have even been born in the same bed."

It wasn't fate, necessarily. In fact, Eileen took some convincing before she eventually agreed to marry Ron in 1943.

"I did not think much of Ron at all," she tells the Daily Mail. "But I did think he looked handsome in his Navy uniform. To be honest, I liked the look of the uniform more than him."

Couple Celebrate Platinum Anniversary 87 Years Posing As Groom And Bride At Age 4
But 70 years after their wedding day, they can look back and see just how special their bond has been.

"We have had our ups and downs, but we have always got on," Eileen says.
Adds Ron: "We promised to love, honor and obey – and I did all the obeying."
Anyway, there's no backing out now. As Eileen says: "I think we will stay together forever."
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Saturday, 15 June 2013

Kim Kardashian Delivers A Baby Girl 5 Weeks Earlier, PregnancyPregnancy, Parenting, Motherhood
Online media sites have reported that Kim Kadarshian has given birth to a baby girl. Howcome the baby arrived 5 weeks ahead of schedule?

According to TMZ Kim Kardashian has given birth to a baby girl ... TMZ has learned. Sources close to KK tell TMZ the baby and Kim are both in good health. We're told Kim delivered the baby at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center this morning (Saturday June 15th)... 5 weeks sooner than originally planned.

Our sources say BF Kanye West was there for the entire thing. We're told Kanye cancelled his appearance at his own record release party last night when Kim told him she was feeling "a little off." It is the first child for Kim and Kanye.

Does it mean the baby is premature or they lied to us about the pregnancy due date?

Kim Kardashian Delivers A Baby Girl 5 Weeks Ahead Of Due Date

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Kim Kardashian Delivers A Baby Girl 5 Weeks Earlier, PregnancyPregnancy, Parenting, Motherhood
Online media sites have reported that Kim Kadarshian has given birth to a baby girl. Howcome the baby arrived 5 weeks ahead of schedule?

According to TMZ Kim Kardashian has given birth to a baby girl ... TMZ has learned. Sources close to KK tell TMZ the baby and Kim are both in good health. We're told Kim delivered the baby at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center this morning (Saturday June 15th)... 5 weeks sooner than originally planned.

Our sources say BF Kanye West was there for the entire thing. We're told Kanye cancelled his appearance at his own record release party last night when Kim told him she was feeling "a little off." It is the first child for Kim and Kanye.

Does it mean the baby is premature or they lied to us about the pregnancy due date?

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Monday, 10 June 2013

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
What a Colourful Scenery
Saturday June 01 2013: I woke up late I think. Rendezvous time at Ugo's house is 7:30am I woke up a 6:30am. I'm so not feeling this golf game today probably cuz I'm not going to play. I called Ifeanyi, he didn't pick. I felt weak. I probably weakened by last night's nightmare battle royal. I managed to shower and dress up. I called Ugo to know the status he gave me the green to head to his house. I got their before most people and I thought I might be the last.

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Driving Range of Lakowe Lakes
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lakowe Lakes Fancy Roundabout
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Driving Range Full of Lovely Kids
It was colourful as everybody came with family, beautiful wives and kids and a grandma. I came alone, no girlfriend. I invited Lara yesterday but she declined, reason she had stuff to do today. We left Ugo's house in flamboyant convoy for Lakowe Lakes around eight o'clock. I was in Seyi's SUV the second to last car. Ugo's blue Prado was the last car. I sat at with Seyi’s two kids, a boy and a girl. The trip started on very smooth note, very lovely weather, I pray it ends that way. At Igbo Efon roundabout Seyi turned round back home as I was trying to attach a reasonable reason to what he did, he told me. There's a warning light glowing on his dashboard, being a cautious human being he wants to switch cars.

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lakowe Lakes Club House
Golf Carts at Lakowe Lakes
Golf Carts at Lakowe Lakes
I wonder if we would've switched cars if he had only one car. We are back on the road, different car same trip. It was a bit long but we made it in one healthy piece. The house is over full, boisterous laughter tore through atmosphere in the club house.  Kids were running around playfully everywhere. We joined the rest of crew. Breakfast first as usual and it’s a buffet. First I took two pieces of yams, two pieces of beef, three short hotdogs, beans and an apple. I finished that took two bread buns, juice, two small meat pies and two eggs omelet. I feel full.

I can consume a lot more you know lol but let me play gentle man for now lol. After we all had enough breakfast, it was driving range and golfing time. We all trooped to the driving range. I'm not sure this place has seen a crowd like this before. The kids were running about. The weather was so sweet. It was too good to be true actually. It created a really lovely serene scene. If I had a camera I would've taken lots of shots. I took some shots with my phone. I love scenery views, the sight stimulates the romantic side of me. I’m down on one knee asking Mother Nature, will you marry me? LOL!

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lake Area Center
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lake Area East
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lake Area West
On our way to the driving range we met these four lovely ducks. They didn't mind us taking pictures of them. As a matter of fact I think they posed for the pictures like a media publicity obsessed celebrities
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Celebrity Ducks
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Celebrity Ducks
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Celebrity Ducks
Gradually the weather changed then a lightening flashed. The guy in charge of the range pulled the plug. He said more lightning bolts will flash and we don’t wanna wait till then before dashing to safety. Come on man we just got to the range. We retraced our steps. Just like he said more thunder bolts raced across the skies. It’s actually exciting to watch this lightning bolts flash across the sky. I was a few meters away from the clubhouse. Quickly I dashed inside faster than Usain Bolt would.

Heaven let lose around 10:20am the rain fell so heavily. From the clubhouse which has a glass or transparent walls, you can see how heavy it was. It rained hard and long. The last time we came here it rained in the morning before a great weather embellished the skies and the whole day. This time around it was the reverse. The day started with a great weather which deteriorated at the height of pleasure trip.

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Good Weather Gone Bad
You can plan a pretty picnic but you can’t predict the weather. We waited it out at the clubhouse. Everyone indulged in one thing or another like taking pictures, group discussions, drinking the drinks meant for refreshment during the golf game. The rain refused to stop completely. We took a rain check with the management since there is no refund. We’ll plan another date to golf it out lol. So that was how our Saturday at Lakowe Lakes came to an end we didn’t hope for.


Seyi dropped me off at Igbo Efon. I bought one Kukere 4 Christ CD and went home. Before I reached home I saw Deborah. Instantly that dream played in my head. I just watched her very closely as if to spot even a microscopic telltale sign on her. Of course none was visible. I stayed indoors through the day. Frank came in the evening to collect the right hard drive for the Toshiba laptop I dashed him. I gave him the wrong hard disk the last time we met.

More pictures
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Family Trooping to the Driving Range
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Golf Driving Range
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Fantastic Golf Weather



Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time

Nwabu King  |  at   1:36 pm  |  No comments

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
What a Colourful Scenery
Saturday June 01 2013: I woke up late I think. Rendezvous time at Ugo's house is 7:30am I woke up a 6:30am. I'm so not feeling this golf game today probably cuz I'm not going to play. I called Ifeanyi, he didn't pick. I felt weak. I probably weakened by last night's nightmare battle royal. I managed to shower and dress up. I called Ugo to know the status he gave me the green to head to his house. I got their before most people and I thought I might be the last.

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Driving Range of Lakowe Lakes
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lakowe Lakes Fancy Roundabout
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Driving Range Full of Lovely Kids
It was colourful as everybody came with family, beautiful wives and kids and a grandma. I came alone, no girlfriend. I invited Lara yesterday but she declined, reason she had stuff to do today. We left Ugo's house in flamboyant convoy for Lakowe Lakes around eight o'clock. I was in Seyi's SUV the second to last car. Ugo's blue Prado was the last car. I sat at with Seyi’s two kids, a boy and a girl. The trip started on very smooth note, very lovely weather, I pray it ends that way. At Igbo Efon roundabout Seyi turned round back home as I was trying to attach a reasonable reason to what he did, he told me. There's a warning light glowing on his dashboard, being a cautious human being he wants to switch cars.

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lakowe Lakes Club House
Golf Carts at Lakowe Lakes
Golf Carts at Lakowe Lakes
I wonder if we would've switched cars if he had only one car. We are back on the road, different car same trip. It was a bit long but we made it in one healthy piece. The house is over full, boisterous laughter tore through atmosphere in the club house.  Kids were running around playfully everywhere. We joined the rest of crew. Breakfast first as usual and it’s a buffet. First I took two pieces of yams, two pieces of beef, three short hotdogs, beans and an apple. I finished that took two bread buns, juice, two small meat pies and two eggs omelet. I feel full.

I can consume a lot more you know lol but let me play gentle man for now lol. After we all had enough breakfast, it was driving range and golfing time. We all trooped to the driving range. I'm not sure this place has seen a crowd like this before. The kids were running about. The weather was so sweet. It was too good to be true actually. It created a really lovely serene scene. If I had a camera I would've taken lots of shots. I took some shots with my phone. I love scenery views, the sight stimulates the romantic side of me. I’m down on one knee asking Mother Nature, will you marry me? LOL!

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lake Area Center
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lake Area East
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lake Area West
On our way to the driving range we met these four lovely ducks. They didn't mind us taking pictures of them. As a matter of fact I think they posed for the pictures like a media publicity obsessed celebrities
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Celebrity Ducks
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Celebrity Ducks
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Celebrity Ducks
Gradually the weather changed then a lightening flashed. The guy in charge of the range pulled the plug. He said more lightning bolts will flash and we don’t wanna wait till then before dashing to safety. Come on man we just got to the range. We retraced our steps. Just like he said more thunder bolts raced across the skies. It’s actually exciting to watch this lightning bolts flash across the sky. I was a few meters away from the clubhouse. Quickly I dashed inside faster than Usain Bolt would.

Heaven let lose around 10:20am the rain fell so heavily. From the clubhouse which has a glass or transparent walls, you can see how heavy it was. It rained hard and long. The last time we came here it rained in the morning before a great weather embellished the skies and the whole day. This time around it was the reverse. The day started with a great weather which deteriorated at the height of pleasure trip.

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Good Weather Gone Bad
You can plan a pretty picnic but you can’t predict the weather. We waited it out at the clubhouse. Everyone indulged in one thing or another like taking pictures, group discussions, drinking the drinks meant for refreshment during the golf game. The rain refused to stop completely. We took a rain check with the management since there is no refund. We’ll plan another date to golf it out lol. So that was how our Saturday at Lakowe Lakes came to an end we didn’t hope for.


Seyi dropped me off at Igbo Efon. I bought one Kukere 4 Christ CD and went home. Before I reached home I saw Deborah. Instantly that dream played in my head. I just watched her very closely as if to spot even a microscopic telltale sign on her. Of course none was visible. I stayed indoors through the day. Frank came in the evening to collect the right hard drive for the Toshiba laptop I dashed him. I gave him the wrong hard disk the last time we met.

More pictures
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Family Trooping to the Driving Range
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Golf Driving Range
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Fantastic Golf Weather



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Thursday, 14 March 2013


I wish this was a fiction but it isn’t. I can’t vividly put everything on paper, I’ll try to make it short. I’m a single Nigerian man trying to make a decent living in the hustle and hustle chaos of Lagos like most people. I stay alone in a room self-contained apartment somewhere in the Lekki corridor. Those who know Lekki can agree with me it’s plagued with unreasonably astronomical rent. One day out of the blue my childhood friend called. He is in Lagos with the family somewhere around Ikotun. I promptly cleared my calendar and paid them a visit.

A week or few days later he told me they will be traveling back to the east on the next Saturday. But since their engagement was in Victoria Island and it demands they be in the office as early as possible on Friday, they requested to stay with me which instantly accepted without giving it a thought. Of course I dint have to. I 'm not married and live alone. I was simply lending a helping hand to a friend. So the simple plan was to come to my place on Tuesday, do their thing in V/I on Friday and then travel back to the east on Saturday. Roughly 5 DAYS stay. Very simple you would say. The month was March. To be precise, it was MARCH 2012. The shocker is that they are still in my place. And this is MARCH 2013! A 5 days stay turned to a 365 days stay yet, the end is not in sight!

Imagine Mr. IN, Mrs. AN and two little niggling kids (girls) living with a single Nigerian man like me in one room. That’s 5 people in one room. The last girl still wears pampers. The wife took the kid back to east sometime in February this year. The main issue is that their lifestyle is polar opposite of mine. I’m the kinda person that can give you a clear precise direction from another galaxy in space on where to get a needle from any corner in my room. In other words I’m very organized. I'm very neat and clean. These people are they exact opposite. It annoys me when things are scattered and untidy. I cook as a bonus. Single Nigerian ladies take note.

That's not my room but you get the picture
They turned the room upside down. They “junglefied” the room effortlessly. In one month the room has seriously aged more than it did in my 3 years stay in it. They damage and litter everywhere and by default blame the kids who can’t defend themselves, most times the kids are not the culprit. I kept fixing things, they will never fix a pin. They will pile the trash up like a messy miniature Egyptian pyramid. At a point I had to wash every inch of the walls by myself in their presence. They should try a healthy lifestyle for the sake of their kids at least.

The guy can’t even wash his handkerchief unless the wife washes them. The moment they open their eyes in the morning, they make a fast bee line to the TV, both papa and mama and even the kids. I know family entertainment is very good for family bonding but does it warrant watching TV with the kids till 2:00am sometimes? I’m like what are you teaching these kids? I advised them over and over to have a timetable for the kids, latest by 9:00pm the kids should be in bed. It fell on deaf stone ears. All I hear is; “the kids don’t sleep on time.” I’m like how can they sleep when you have initiated their body system into your wake keeping style television watching habit from dusk to dawn.


I'm not a relationship guide expert but it's glaring that they need a little relationship guide. They quarreled and fought like crazy initially over really retarded reasons often orchestrated by the guy. At first I try to separate them but they are dedicated to the violence so I stopped bothering myself. Una go tire na. Whenever they go WrestleMania I just shield the kids from their parents menace. They pack a lot of nasty dirty habits that really irritate, disgust and annoy me. They are filth-friendly. It's as if a healthy lifestyle is unappealing to them. I just ignored and endured all this. I think they need marriage advice. You can say by association with them I'm not a single Nigerian man any more.

I have seen many moons, I’m yet to see a mind that works in a warped fashion as Ibe’s. He can attach a simple act of placing a pencil on the table to the events of cold war era of 1947 and further to a future colder war. He is one helluva paranoid, delusional, complex stricken homo sapien.


He is legendary with skill of reading a person’s mind, motive, thoughts, body language you name it, no problem with that. But he is a total failure at the results he gets from his readings. The worst part is how strongly he will believe he is right based on his highly delusional postulation. It’s mesmerizingly amazing. It used to disturb me when he makes these psycho assumptions but now it just amuses me like a good cartoon. Like Gaara told Naruto in the anime; “Uzumaki Naruto, you are really good at amusing me!”

He’s richly endowed with a brittle mouth that is always so hasty to spew some irrational things. At slightest tiff with his wife he will layer very unfathomable deep curses on his wife and he expects to prosper after cursing himself, since he is now one with his wife. I wonder what actually goes on in his heart. The bible clarifies it in Luke 6:45 which says;

"A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh."

In all honestly, when his demons are heavily sedated, he can exhibit a good nature. He thinks or cares about others, he's willing to share whatever he has, he can try to motivate you, etc. Still he is a jerk. His jerk part casts a very extensive nasty shadow. Somebody who knew him well from the village said he can really be a humongous jerk. I didn’t know all this side of him.

Now the wife is a hardworking woman. She doesn’t always agree with all her husband’s actions and utterances. She has her own excess baggage too. The most friction we experience is generated by him.

One thing I have always been very genuinely and deeply grateful to this couple for is food. As a single guy I can assure you cooking can be stressful most times, that has been lifted off my shoulder and they combining resources can whip up something when you least expect it. But I’m finicky with food so I don’t always enjoy or eat what is cooked. It may not be the best healthy foods but I'm always grateful and appreciate the gesture. I buy foodstuffs and drop money occasionally especially when they ask me for it.


I’m not saying I’m a perfect being. I’m not. I give people benefit of the doubt till there's no more doubt left to give. Please I beg you for my sake disregard the saying; "Show me your friend and I'll tell you who you are." That saying is seriously flawed in this situation. I'm nothing like this guy and will never be!

I often ask God why He is putting me through this trial. But I know God’s purpose will make me triumph at the end of the trials and tribulation. I did what I did because it’s the heart and kind of person God made me. I’m not doing it so that this guy will reward me. God will reward me. If he decides appreciate what I did, that’s a bonus. If he doesn’t, I won’t hold it against him. But history and posterity will bear witness to my deed.

I'm a single Nigerian man but I live the life of a married man. My privacy is dead and rotten. My friends don’t visit me anymore. Shame severely shrinks my self-esteem anytime a select few attempt to visit me because of the new signature of my room, signature of grime rebranded aesthetic. My girl then said over her dead body will she visit me provided they still stay with me all thanks to his jerk behaviour. That was how that relationship died a natural death somehow. She even told me like a prophetess; "Mark my words the help you are giving will end in a fall-out. It usually does and the people will never remember the sacrifice you made to shelter them." How naive I was, I didn't believe a word she said. What have I not seen from them?

In his delusion, this guy had the effrontery to accuse me of having an affair with his wife. Saying I find it very insulting is an unforgiveable understatement. If he strongly feels that way why does he still pollute the peace of my place with his presence?

Trouble ballooned when I started frowning at or addressing their excesses. For nine months I let them have a field day. On December ending of 2012 I asked them to find a place that I cannot ignore and endure anymore and to my greatest surprise, the guy confronted me on that. He challenged me as if I’m breaching the agreement we had to live together.

Telling me “….so you want to kick us out? Me and my family will wait for you and the police or army you will call to kick us out”

I took it calmly like my usual self. I can really be calm on the surface but tsunami underneath. All I said to him was “…this is why people don’t do good deeds.” I initially gave them till end of January to leave and the guy threw tantrum again. Later he apologized for the tantrum that he was being a jerk. They said they are looking for an accommodation but it doesn’t look it to me. The man bragged that money ain’t a problem, matter fact they’ll leave before January ending. Two after those were said, they are still at my place. I don’t mock their situation, I pray for them. I don’t hate them but I deeply and unapologetically hate their lifestyle. The should get a lifestyle facelift. I’m just watching, not talking anymore. Their lifestyle can impact negatively on a weak minded single man to decide not marry again if this is what marriage will be like.

My uncle once said something that shocked me because of how true his words of wisdom were. This was before they even came. He said; ”People of our family love to help people but we do it to a point that it really hurts us and we keep doing it.” When I reflect on that comment I shudder. Every and anybody I tell this just wants me to kick them out by fire by force except two people. I don’t know why I’m still holding back hoping somehow a happy ending will emerge.

In your opinion, if you were me what would you do?

What To Do When The Help You Gave Is Giving You Hell?

Nwabu King  |  at   6:56 pm  |  2 comments


I wish this was a fiction but it isn’t. I can’t vividly put everything on paper, I’ll try to make it short. I’m a single Nigerian man trying to make a decent living in the hustle and hustle chaos of Lagos like most people. I stay alone in a room self-contained apartment somewhere in the Lekki corridor. Those who know Lekki can agree with me it’s plagued with unreasonably astronomical rent. One day out of the blue my childhood friend called. He is in Lagos with the family somewhere around Ikotun. I promptly cleared my calendar and paid them a visit.

A week or few days later he told me they will be traveling back to the east on the next Saturday. But since their engagement was in Victoria Island and it demands they be in the office as early as possible on Friday, they requested to stay with me which instantly accepted without giving it a thought. Of course I dint have to. I 'm not married and live alone. I was simply lending a helping hand to a friend. So the simple plan was to come to my place on Tuesday, do their thing in V/I on Friday and then travel back to the east on Saturday. Roughly 5 DAYS stay. Very simple you would say. The month was March. To be precise, it was MARCH 2012. The shocker is that they are still in my place. And this is MARCH 2013! A 5 days stay turned to a 365 days stay yet, the end is not in sight!

Imagine Mr. IN, Mrs. AN and two little niggling kids (girls) living with a single Nigerian man like me in one room. That’s 5 people in one room. The last girl still wears pampers. The wife took the kid back to east sometime in February this year. The main issue is that their lifestyle is polar opposite of mine. I’m the kinda person that can give you a clear precise direction from another galaxy in space on where to get a needle from any corner in my room. In other words I’m very organized. I'm very neat and clean. These people are they exact opposite. It annoys me when things are scattered and untidy. I cook as a bonus. Single Nigerian ladies take note.

That's not my room but you get the picture
They turned the room upside down. They “junglefied” the room effortlessly. In one month the room has seriously aged more than it did in my 3 years stay in it. They damage and litter everywhere and by default blame the kids who can’t defend themselves, most times the kids are not the culprit. I kept fixing things, they will never fix a pin. They will pile the trash up like a messy miniature Egyptian pyramid. At a point I had to wash every inch of the walls by myself in their presence. They should try a healthy lifestyle for the sake of their kids at least.

The guy can’t even wash his handkerchief unless the wife washes them. The moment they open their eyes in the morning, they make a fast bee line to the TV, both papa and mama and even the kids. I know family entertainment is very good for family bonding but does it warrant watching TV with the kids till 2:00am sometimes? I’m like what are you teaching these kids? I advised them over and over to have a timetable for the kids, latest by 9:00pm the kids should be in bed. It fell on deaf stone ears. All I hear is; “the kids don’t sleep on time.” I’m like how can they sleep when you have initiated their body system into your wake keeping style television watching habit from dusk to dawn.


I'm not a relationship guide expert but it's glaring that they need a little relationship guide. They quarreled and fought like crazy initially over really retarded reasons often orchestrated by the guy. At first I try to separate them but they are dedicated to the violence so I stopped bothering myself. Una go tire na. Whenever they go WrestleMania I just shield the kids from their parents menace. They pack a lot of nasty dirty habits that really irritate, disgust and annoy me. They are filth-friendly. It's as if a healthy lifestyle is unappealing to them. I just ignored and endured all this. I think they need marriage advice. You can say by association with them I'm not a single Nigerian man any more.

I have seen many moons, I’m yet to see a mind that works in a warped fashion as Ibe’s. He can attach a simple act of placing a pencil on the table to the events of cold war era of 1947 and further to a future colder war. He is one helluva paranoid, delusional, complex stricken homo sapien.


He is legendary with skill of reading a person’s mind, motive, thoughts, body language you name it, no problem with that. But he is a total failure at the results he gets from his readings. The worst part is how strongly he will believe he is right based on his highly delusional postulation. It’s mesmerizingly amazing. It used to disturb me when he makes these psycho assumptions but now it just amuses me like a good cartoon. Like Gaara told Naruto in the anime; “Uzumaki Naruto, you are really good at amusing me!”

He’s richly endowed with a brittle mouth that is always so hasty to spew some irrational things. At slightest tiff with his wife he will layer very unfathomable deep curses on his wife and he expects to prosper after cursing himself, since he is now one with his wife. I wonder what actually goes on in his heart. The bible clarifies it in Luke 6:45 which says;

"A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh."

In all honestly, when his demons are heavily sedated, he can exhibit a good nature. He thinks or cares about others, he's willing to share whatever he has, he can try to motivate you, etc. Still he is a jerk. His jerk part casts a very extensive nasty shadow. Somebody who knew him well from the village said he can really be a humongous jerk. I didn’t know all this side of him.

Now the wife is a hardworking woman. She doesn’t always agree with all her husband’s actions and utterances. She has her own excess baggage too. The most friction we experience is generated by him.

One thing I have always been very genuinely and deeply grateful to this couple for is food. As a single guy I can assure you cooking can be stressful most times, that has been lifted off my shoulder and they combining resources can whip up something when you least expect it. But I’m finicky with food so I don’t always enjoy or eat what is cooked. It may not be the best healthy foods but I'm always grateful and appreciate the gesture. I buy foodstuffs and drop money occasionally especially when they ask me for it.


I’m not saying I’m a perfect being. I’m not. I give people benefit of the doubt till there's no more doubt left to give. Please I beg you for my sake disregard the saying; "Show me your friend and I'll tell you who you are." That saying is seriously flawed in this situation. I'm nothing like this guy and will never be!

I often ask God why He is putting me through this trial. But I know God’s purpose will make me triumph at the end of the trials and tribulation. I did what I did because it’s the heart and kind of person God made me. I’m not doing it so that this guy will reward me. God will reward me. If he decides appreciate what I did, that’s a bonus. If he doesn’t, I won’t hold it against him. But history and posterity will bear witness to my deed.

I'm a single Nigerian man but I live the life of a married man. My privacy is dead and rotten. My friends don’t visit me anymore. Shame severely shrinks my self-esteem anytime a select few attempt to visit me because of the new signature of my room, signature of grime rebranded aesthetic. My girl then said over her dead body will she visit me provided they still stay with me all thanks to his jerk behaviour. That was how that relationship died a natural death somehow. She even told me like a prophetess; "Mark my words the help you are giving will end in a fall-out. It usually does and the people will never remember the sacrifice you made to shelter them." How naive I was, I didn't believe a word she said. What have I not seen from them?

In his delusion, this guy had the effrontery to accuse me of having an affair with his wife. Saying I find it very insulting is an unforgiveable understatement. If he strongly feels that way why does he still pollute the peace of my place with his presence?

Trouble ballooned when I started frowning at or addressing their excesses. For nine months I let them have a field day. On December ending of 2012 I asked them to find a place that I cannot ignore and endure anymore and to my greatest surprise, the guy confronted me on that. He challenged me as if I’m breaching the agreement we had to live together.

Telling me “….so you want to kick us out? Me and my family will wait for you and the police or army you will call to kick us out”

I took it calmly like my usual self. I can really be calm on the surface but tsunami underneath. All I said to him was “…this is why people don’t do good deeds.” I initially gave them till end of January to leave and the guy threw tantrum again. Later he apologized for the tantrum that he was being a jerk. They said they are looking for an accommodation but it doesn’t look it to me. The man bragged that money ain’t a problem, matter fact they’ll leave before January ending. Two after those were said, they are still at my place. I don’t mock their situation, I pray for them. I don’t hate them but I deeply and unapologetically hate their lifestyle. The should get a lifestyle facelift. I’m just watching, not talking anymore. Their lifestyle can impact negatively on a weak minded single man to decide not marry again if this is what marriage will be like.

My uncle once said something that shocked me because of how true his words of wisdom were. This was before they even came. He said; ”People of our family love to help people but we do it to a point that it really hurts us and we keep doing it.” When I reflect on that comment I shudder. Every and anybody I tell this just wants me to kick them out by fire by force except two people. I don’t know why I’m still holding back hoping somehow a happy ending will emerge.

In your opinion, if you were me what would you do?
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