The Benefits Of Forgiveness In a Relationship, Learn To Forgive

For any relationship to work, the parties involved must learn to forgive each other. Now note I said any relationship. Forgiveness is vital sustaining element of any relationship be it boy/girlfriend, husband/wife, parent/children, between siblings, regular friends, work colleagues, etc. Granted from time to time one party will wrong the other knowingly or unknowingly, the parties involved need to learn to forgive if they value that relationship. It’s easier said than done I know but it’s better done than not.

Recently I reached a hand of fellowship to someone, a friend that has wronged me so much. I felt like burden was lifted off my shoulder. Forgiveness is the key to freedom of the mind. Forgiveness is a priceless relationship guidance tip.

What Is The Significance Of Forgiveness In A Relationship?
Why does it matter? Forgiveness is a sign that one is willing to trust. If one cannot forgive, that indicates the person will never trust his or her partner again. Everyone makes mistakes. Some make bigger mistakes than the rest of us. Forgiveness becomes important when a person who has committed the mistake realizes the blunder and is truly sorry for his or her actions. Trust and forgiveness go hand in hand in every relationship.

Why Do You Forgive A Person You Are In A Relationship With?

1. The primary reason is love. We forgive because we love the person and are willing to forgive out of love.
2. It also means we do not take the other person’s actions personally.
3. Willingness to forgive shows we have control over our anger and we can handle crisis situations.
4. It is a sign of maturity that allows one to behave with tact and act in a magnanimous manner.

Understanding
Couples need to learn to forgive as it can make life easier for them. Living together becomes easy when a partner is willing to understand and forgive. Living together holding a grudge can make it impossible to continue the relationship. Some people cannot handle being hurt and seek revenge. This is not good for the relationship. To continue living in a healthy relationship forgiveness has to come at the right time.

Implications Of Forgiveness
Forgiving is never easy. How does one forget the trauma and pain caused by the partner? Yet forgiving has healing powers, it is healthy. Being able to forgive helps you cope better with stress. It removes anger and is considered as good for your cardiovascular health according to experts. Forgiveness reduces stress levels.

How To Learn To Forgive?
Some people forgive easily while for some it is an art that they have to master. Here are some tips that can help a person to forgive –

1. Learn to recognize your partner’s shortcomings. We are all humans and none of us is perfect. We all have our own flaws. Coming to terms with your partner’s flaws can help you forgive your partner. 
2. Focus on the action not on your partner. What your partner does to you could hurt you. Do not let the hurt take away what you share. If you cannot forgive your partner’s action, you end up putting your whole relationship at stake. Ask yourself if it is really worth it? 
3. Remember the good times you have had and the special bond that you share. Memories of better times make forgiveness easier. 
4. Reflect on what really transpired. Think whether the reason really deserves your anger and hatred forever.

In Conclusion
If you want your relationship to work, you would need to forgive. Forgiving does not mean you are scared or you accept what your partner has done. It means that you want to give your relationship another chance. It means that you hold the love that you share in higher esteem than the things that hurt you. It means that you are a strong and mature adult, capable of handling situations that life throws at you, instead of hiding behind anger.

We love happy endings. Live happily ever after as you learn to forgive.

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7 Sure Tips To Satisfy A Typical Nigerian Lover

Nigerian men are like any other men physiologically but not entirely the same psychologically. The Nigerian or African culture and environment has its element of influence of the package Nigerian/African Man.

A few of these tips was written by OMG.com.ng. How to please a Nigerian / African man is not a usual question you hear from women but due to abuse and dissatisfaction in relationships, most Nigerian Women are frustrated with their Naija men.

You might just be a Nigerian Woman reading this article please stay strong and read further to learn more. If you are a Nigerian man that is not giving your wife the required attention, please adjust accordingly if you want to please her.

If you are not a Nigerian Man or Woman reading this, it’s still helpful. You can learn a thing or two.

Please Follow These Tips To Satisfy Your Nigerian Man. The list is not exhaustive though.
For emphasis; Marriage didn’t come packaged with a written one-size-fits-all guideline, its left for two adults to work it out following what they learnt from about marriage from the bible, counseling books, their parents, society and their own personal beliefs & moral standing.

First of all Be Certain Your Nigerian Man Really Loves You. Men are not strong at hiding emotion especially when it comes to passionate feeling. If a Nigerian man doesn’t feel connected to his wife, they tend to look out for something that can satisfy their passion. It takes a God-fearing man to stick to his wife even when he doesn’t feel that connected anymore. Now that it is established that this loves and cares so much about you, first don’t let it go to your head. Now do the following

Dress Very Well For Your Man
How did you dress that caught your man’s attention in the first place? Men are creatures of sight! I can’t say this enough, most Nigerian women today dress in a shabby manner especially after having kids. Remember men are attracted to sexy things (women, outfit, shapes, hairstyles, etc).

Make sure you dress well for your man, I don’t care whether you are 20 or 35 or 60, ensure you dress well. The question now is how can I dress well with all these pounds I have added (May be that is why your man is not attracted to you anymore). Keep dressing the way that makes him not want to take his eyes off you.

Be Humble To Your Man
Honestly, most Nigerian women have lost their culture, remember our culture commands respect. I don’t care if you are making twice than him. If your man feels a sense of respect from you, he will respect you in return.

Know How To Cook And Clean
You don't want your Nigerian Man marrying you and the numerous eateries that dot the neighbourhood. They say the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Don't make the mistake that you can short-circuit that through your bossom. If you can't cook learn how to cook at least his favourite dishes he'll love and appreciate you more for the attempt. Also know how to clean. *In fact this tip should be number one*

Maintain A Good Weight
Please Naija women, if you have gained a lot of weight since you got married to your sweetheart, there is a real chance your man might be interested in slim women aka lepa. So, go on a quick diet and shed the weight, keep fit. Some men do like thick women, you don't have to be a slim woman or lepa. Just stay fit and trim.

Be Romantic
To be honest, most Nigerian men are not romantic, so if your man is not romantic, show him some romance. Don’t let him be the first to come and kiss you, kiss him 24/7 especially when you are indoors (but keep in mind to give him some space too, very important).

Remember He Is A Nigerian An Not A Citizen Of Your Romance Fairy-tale Novel Or Fantasy
Don’t have over ambitious expectation for him regarding romance based on what you read in romance novels. Those are fictions, learn to separate the two. Hold him in such high esteem and your relationship is doomed.

Don’t Import Romance From Another Culture And Try To Enforce It On Him
The result may likely be very unfavourable. Though you aspire to live a certain standard or romance life, start from the basic where he is very comfortable.

So when last did you kneel down to greet your husband?
If nothing seems to work after trying all your best, then what you need is counseling

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Relationship Guidance: Basis Of Every Romance Relationship

This is incredible. I've never thought of a thing like this relationship guidance tip. Based on the relationship guidance chart by GraphJam, every romantic relationships share two major traits; what they hate in common and what they like in common. Graphically via GraphJam, they hate more things in common than what the couple both like. I reserve my comment on this relationship tip. Do you Agree or Disagree?

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