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Wednesday, 12 June 2013

Sunday June 02 2013: Truth be told, I really like the peace and quiet of my room now. I did my morning rituals. Today’s church service holds at TBS Lagos. The Apapa Family holds is holding the annual service EXCEL Service. I attended VIM – Victory Inheritance Ministry instead. It rained the started drizzling, it’ll take a lot more than this drizzle to stop me from going to church today. I called Caesar to find out when to meet him at home and gave me 9:00am as usual. We made it in time before the end of praise and worship. Pastor Nelson Osewengie preached on a topic “I Have An Identity” It was a high octane session of undiluted insightful sharing of the knowledge of the good Lord and the world! By the way my identity is not subject to identity theft! If you don't know your identity it will be subject to abuse and misuse.

I ENJOYED THE SERVICE! I’m so glad I came here today. It was very refreshing. No offence to my pastor but I wish he can preach like this. I learnt a lot. He infused so many practical realistic examples to buttress his point which made the sermon very easy to digest. From start to finish it was worth it. it’s not good enough to know your identity but also make use of it. For those of you who don’t know, I Have An Identity Of Greatness! The church held different meetings after the service I had to wait. Ruth, Ese, Folake and Blessing are ushers here. Ruth didn’t come today, blame it on her ICAN exam. Ese and Folake had a little fall out which tried to resolve. It was a buyer-seller squabble over face powder.

From church we went to Spar. Caesar drove, Tony in the front seat, me in the middle flanked by Folake on my left and Blessing on my right at the back seat. We made fun of each other. Folake is a nice girl, she doesn’t talk too much but always speaks her mind. People that will talk my head off are not really my type. Blessing and Folake picked what they wanted they want and we left. If only I had my atm card I would’ve picked something as well. I didn’t have enough money on me. We dropped off Folake, I got dropped off too. First of, I donated my body to sleep. I stayed indoors throughout.

Amara came in the evening. She cooked jollof rice. I asked her about Ibe, she said he is fine. That’s good to hear. Caveat! I’m not asking so he can come back! I’m not asking cuz I miss him! Just wanna know if he is doing okay. Trust Ibe he will definitely understand it differently fortunately for me I don’t care. I’m only responsible for what I say and not responsible for he understands. I drifted off on my laptop.

“I Have An Identity” Service With Victory Inheritance Ministry

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Sunday June 02 2013: Truth be told, I really like the peace and quiet of my room now. I did my morning rituals. Today’s church service holds at TBS Lagos. The Apapa Family holds is holding the annual service EXCEL Service. I attended VIM – Victory Inheritance Ministry instead. It rained the started drizzling, it’ll take a lot more than this drizzle to stop me from going to church today. I called Caesar to find out when to meet him at home and gave me 9:00am as usual. We made it in time before the end of praise and worship. Pastor Nelson Osewengie preached on a topic “I Have An Identity” It was a high octane session of undiluted insightful sharing of the knowledge of the good Lord and the world! By the way my identity is not subject to identity theft! If you don't know your identity it will be subject to abuse and misuse.

I ENJOYED THE SERVICE! I’m so glad I came here today. It was very refreshing. No offence to my pastor but I wish he can preach like this. I learnt a lot. He infused so many practical realistic examples to buttress his point which made the sermon very easy to digest. From start to finish it was worth it. it’s not good enough to know your identity but also make use of it. For those of you who don’t know, I Have An Identity Of Greatness! The church held different meetings after the service I had to wait. Ruth, Ese, Folake and Blessing are ushers here. Ruth didn’t come today, blame it on her ICAN exam. Ese and Folake had a little fall out which tried to resolve. It was a buyer-seller squabble over face powder.

From church we went to Spar. Caesar drove, Tony in the front seat, me in the middle flanked by Folake on my left and Blessing on my right at the back seat. We made fun of each other. Folake is a nice girl, she doesn’t talk too much but always speaks her mind. People that will talk my head off are not really my type. Blessing and Folake picked what they wanted they want and we left. If only I had my atm card I would’ve picked something as well. I didn’t have enough money on me. We dropped off Folake, I got dropped off too. First of, I donated my body to sleep. I stayed indoors throughout.

Amara came in the evening. She cooked jollof rice. I asked her about Ibe, she said he is fine. That’s good to hear. Caveat! I’m not asking so he can come back! I’m not asking cuz I miss him! Just wanna know if he is doing okay. Trust Ibe he will definitely understand it differently fortunately for me I don’t care. I’m only responsible for what I say and not responsible for he understands. I drifted off on my laptop.
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Monday, 10 June 2013

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
What a Colourful Scenery
Saturday June 01 2013: I woke up late I think. Rendezvous time at Ugo's house is 7:30am I woke up a 6:30am. I'm so not feeling this golf game today probably cuz I'm not going to play. I called Ifeanyi, he didn't pick. I felt weak. I probably weakened by last night's nightmare battle royal. I managed to shower and dress up. I called Ugo to know the status he gave me the green to head to his house. I got their before most people and I thought I might be the last.

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Driving Range of Lakowe Lakes
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lakowe Lakes Fancy Roundabout
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Driving Range Full of Lovely Kids
It was colourful as everybody came with family, beautiful wives and kids and a grandma. I came alone, no girlfriend. I invited Lara yesterday but she declined, reason she had stuff to do today. We left Ugo's house in flamboyant convoy for Lakowe Lakes around eight o'clock. I was in Seyi's SUV the second to last car. Ugo's blue Prado was the last car. I sat at with Seyi’s two kids, a boy and a girl. The trip started on very smooth note, very lovely weather, I pray it ends that way. At Igbo Efon roundabout Seyi turned round back home as I was trying to attach a reasonable reason to what he did, he told me. There's a warning light glowing on his dashboard, being a cautious human being he wants to switch cars.

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lakowe Lakes Club House
Golf Carts at Lakowe Lakes
Golf Carts at Lakowe Lakes
I wonder if we would've switched cars if he had only one car. We are back on the road, different car same trip. It was a bit long but we made it in one healthy piece. The house is over full, boisterous laughter tore through atmosphere in the club house.  Kids were running around playfully everywhere. We joined the rest of crew. Breakfast first as usual and it’s a buffet. First I took two pieces of yams, two pieces of beef, three short hotdogs, beans and an apple. I finished that took two bread buns, juice, two small meat pies and two eggs omelet. I feel full.

I can consume a lot more you know lol but let me play gentle man for now lol. After we all had enough breakfast, it was driving range and golfing time. We all trooped to the driving range. I'm not sure this place has seen a crowd like this before. The kids were running about. The weather was so sweet. It was too good to be true actually. It created a really lovely serene scene. If I had a camera I would've taken lots of shots. I took some shots with my phone. I love scenery views, the sight stimulates the romantic side of me. I’m down on one knee asking Mother Nature, will you marry me? LOL!

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lake Area Center
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lake Area East
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lake Area West
On our way to the driving range we met these four lovely ducks. They didn't mind us taking pictures of them. As a matter of fact I think they posed for the pictures like a media publicity obsessed celebrities
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Celebrity Ducks
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Celebrity Ducks
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Celebrity Ducks
Gradually the weather changed then a lightening flashed. The guy in charge of the range pulled the plug. He said more lightning bolts will flash and we don’t wanna wait till then before dashing to safety. Come on man we just got to the range. We retraced our steps. Just like he said more thunder bolts raced across the skies. It’s actually exciting to watch this lightning bolts flash across the sky. I was a few meters away from the clubhouse. Quickly I dashed inside faster than Usain Bolt would.

Heaven let lose around 10:20am the rain fell so heavily. From the clubhouse which has a glass or transparent walls, you can see how heavy it was. It rained hard and long. The last time we came here it rained in the morning before a great weather embellished the skies and the whole day. This time around it was the reverse. The day started with a great weather which deteriorated at the height of pleasure trip.

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Good Weather Gone Bad
You can plan a pretty picnic but you can’t predict the weather. We waited it out at the clubhouse. Everyone indulged in one thing or another like taking pictures, group discussions, drinking the drinks meant for refreshment during the golf game. The rain refused to stop completely. We took a rain check with the management since there is no refund. We’ll plan another date to golf it out lol. So that was how our Saturday at Lakowe Lakes came to an end we didn’t hope for.


Seyi dropped me off at Igbo Efon. I bought one Kukere 4 Christ CD and went home. Before I reached home I saw Deborah. Instantly that dream played in my head. I just watched her very closely as if to spot even a microscopic telltale sign on her. Of course none was visible. I stayed indoors through the day. Frank came in the evening to collect the right hard drive for the Toshiba laptop I dashed him. I gave him the wrong hard disk the last time we met.

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Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Family Trooping to the Driving Range
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Golf Driving Range
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Fantastic Golf Weather



Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time

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Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
What a Colourful Scenery
Saturday June 01 2013: I woke up late I think. Rendezvous time at Ugo's house is 7:30am I woke up a 6:30am. I'm so not feeling this golf game today probably cuz I'm not going to play. I called Ifeanyi, he didn't pick. I felt weak. I probably weakened by last night's nightmare battle royal. I managed to shower and dress up. I called Ugo to know the status he gave me the green to head to his house. I got their before most people and I thought I might be the last.

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Driving Range of Lakowe Lakes
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lakowe Lakes Fancy Roundabout
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Driving Range Full of Lovely Kids
It was colourful as everybody came with family, beautiful wives and kids and a grandma. I came alone, no girlfriend. I invited Lara yesterday but she declined, reason she had stuff to do today. We left Ugo's house in flamboyant convoy for Lakowe Lakes around eight o'clock. I was in Seyi's SUV the second to last car. Ugo's blue Prado was the last car. I sat at with Seyi’s two kids, a boy and a girl. The trip started on very smooth note, very lovely weather, I pray it ends that way. At Igbo Efon roundabout Seyi turned round back home as I was trying to attach a reasonable reason to what he did, he told me. There's a warning light glowing on his dashboard, being a cautious human being he wants to switch cars.

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lakowe Lakes Club House
Golf Carts at Lakowe Lakes
Golf Carts at Lakowe Lakes
I wonder if we would've switched cars if he had only one car. We are back on the road, different car same trip. It was a bit long but we made it in one healthy piece. The house is over full, boisterous laughter tore through atmosphere in the club house.  Kids were running around playfully everywhere. We joined the rest of crew. Breakfast first as usual and it’s a buffet. First I took two pieces of yams, two pieces of beef, three short hotdogs, beans and an apple. I finished that took two bread buns, juice, two small meat pies and two eggs omelet. I feel full.

I can consume a lot more you know lol but let me play gentle man for now lol. After we all had enough breakfast, it was driving range and golfing time. We all trooped to the driving range. I'm not sure this place has seen a crowd like this before. The kids were running about. The weather was so sweet. It was too good to be true actually. It created a really lovely serene scene. If I had a camera I would've taken lots of shots. I took some shots with my phone. I love scenery views, the sight stimulates the romantic side of me. I’m down on one knee asking Mother Nature, will you marry me? LOL!

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lake Area Center
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lake Area East
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Lake Area West
On our way to the driving range we met these four lovely ducks. They didn't mind us taking pictures of them. As a matter of fact I think they posed for the pictures like a media publicity obsessed celebrities
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Celebrity Ducks
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Celebrity Ducks
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Celebrity Ducks
Gradually the weather changed then a lightening flashed. The guy in charge of the range pulled the plug. He said more lightning bolts will flash and we don’t wanna wait till then before dashing to safety. Come on man we just got to the range. We retraced our steps. Just like he said more thunder bolts raced across the skies. It’s actually exciting to watch this lightning bolts flash across the sky. I was a few meters away from the clubhouse. Quickly I dashed inside faster than Usain Bolt would.

Heaven let lose around 10:20am the rain fell so heavily. From the clubhouse which has a glass or transparent walls, you can see how heavy it was. It rained hard and long. The last time we came here it rained in the morning before a great weather embellished the skies and the whole day. This time around it was the reverse. The day started with a great weather which deteriorated at the height of pleasure trip.

Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Good Weather Gone Bad
You can plan a pretty picnic but you can’t predict the weather. We waited it out at the clubhouse. Everyone indulged in one thing or another like taking pictures, group discussions, drinking the drinks meant for refreshment during the golf game. The rain refused to stop completely. We took a rain check with the management since there is no refund. We’ll plan another date to golf it out lol. So that was how our Saturday at Lakowe Lakes came to an end we didn’t hope for.


Seyi dropped me off at Igbo Efon. I bought one Kukere 4 Christ CD and went home. Before I reached home I saw Deborah. Instantly that dream played in my head. I just watched her very closely as if to spot even a microscopic telltale sign on her. Of course none was visible. I stayed indoors through the day. Frank came in the evening to collect the right hard drive for the Toshiba laptop I dashed him. I gave him the wrong hard disk the last time we met.

More pictures
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Family Trooping to the Driving Range
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Golf Driving Range
Awesome Golf Picnic At Lakowe Lakes: A Family Leisure And Bonding Time
Fantastic Golf Weather



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How The Succubus Attacked On Friday Night!
Last night sleep turned out action-packed. It was action-packed in scary way. It's frighteningly amazing how you don't know what goes on when you are asleep. The phrase ''sleep is the cousin of death'' captures it clearly. Have you ever wondered how or why you never know the beginning of your dream, you realize it’s a dream after the dream advances. It does puzzle me. Or why do we wake up from a nightmare sweating? Does the struggle in the dream use your energy in the physical? There are so many things about sleep and dreams that man doesn’t know and may never know.

From where I can remember, I closed my door as my new neighbour Deborah came in. She went straight to the bed. I was like it's gonna be good time. I didn't expect that anyway but I gotta take advantage of the opportunity. She teasingly took off her shirt revealing a small singlet. I joined her on the bed, a gleam of excitement in my eye, fully testosterone energized in anticipation of the pleasure to come. We were not naked though.

She got on top of me wearing the most seductive and teasing smile and said in cold lifeless tone; ''You have no idea who you are getting involved with and you still go ahead to do it'' Then I notice her upper body elongating like a snake. I knew then that this was a dream, to be precise a nightmare. I started screaming the powerful name of Jesus, Blood of Jesus. I was screaming my lungs out but the sound was drowned. I continued to scream and struggle to get off her grip and ultimately to wake up.

With all ounce of energy I was forcing my eyes to open. It was like trying to use my mind to pull down a reinforced brick wall. I didn't give up fighting for my life. Then my eyes opened. I was sweating and panting. I felt like a huge weight was bearing crushingly down on me. The crushing feeling gradually left me. I looked around the room forensically like a spiritual CSI expert. I didn't see anything out of the ordinary physically but I felt like something extraordinary just left the room. I was dazed for a while trying regain my composure. I kept wondering why did the succubus attack me?

 How The Succubus Attacked On Friday Night!
According to medieval folklore, a SUCCUBUS is a demon that takes the form of a woman in order to have intercourse with a man in his dreams. The name comes from Old Latin, and means “to lie under.” In Islamic superstition, there is a similar demon called the qarinah or karina, and in ancient Middle Eastern cultures Lilith was the night demon's name. Whichever name is used, the essential qualities are the same: a demon who tempts men sexually at night and who tries to kill infants at birth.
The Bible in Proverbs 2:18-19, describes the dangers of the seductress or “strange woman” which is similar to SUCCUBUS.

I read somewhere that ‘SUCCUBUSES’ are drawn to those that are going through a “Emotionally Struggling” period in a guy’s life. One thing was really disturbing.  Am I emotionally struggling? Why did I see Deborah's face? Again why did this succubus attack? She has been to my room a couple of times. She has used my fridge to store her food, drank water from my dispenser, etc. I have never hit on her and don’t really intend to. I prayed about the dream seriously. Towards the end of the prayer I started to drift a bit, I used all my energy to focus till I finished the prayer and slept off immediately. I didn’t dream again.

Why Did The Succubus Attack?

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How The Succubus Attacked On Friday Night!
Last night sleep turned out action-packed. It was action-packed in scary way. It's frighteningly amazing how you don't know what goes on when you are asleep. The phrase ''sleep is the cousin of death'' captures it clearly. Have you ever wondered how or why you never know the beginning of your dream, you realize it’s a dream after the dream advances. It does puzzle me. Or why do we wake up from a nightmare sweating? Does the struggle in the dream use your energy in the physical? There are so many things about sleep and dreams that man doesn’t know and may never know.

From where I can remember, I closed my door as my new neighbour Deborah came in. She went straight to the bed. I was like it's gonna be good time. I didn't expect that anyway but I gotta take advantage of the opportunity. She teasingly took off her shirt revealing a small singlet. I joined her on the bed, a gleam of excitement in my eye, fully testosterone energized in anticipation of the pleasure to come. We were not naked though.

She got on top of me wearing the most seductive and teasing smile and said in cold lifeless tone; ''You have no idea who you are getting involved with and you still go ahead to do it'' Then I notice her upper body elongating like a snake. I knew then that this was a dream, to be precise a nightmare. I started screaming the powerful name of Jesus, Blood of Jesus. I was screaming my lungs out but the sound was drowned. I continued to scream and struggle to get off her grip and ultimately to wake up.

With all ounce of energy I was forcing my eyes to open. It was like trying to use my mind to pull down a reinforced brick wall. I didn't give up fighting for my life. Then my eyes opened. I was sweating and panting. I felt like a huge weight was bearing crushingly down on me. The crushing feeling gradually left me. I looked around the room forensically like a spiritual CSI expert. I didn't see anything out of the ordinary physically but I felt like something extraordinary just left the room. I was dazed for a while trying regain my composure. I kept wondering why did the succubus attack me?

 How The Succubus Attacked On Friday Night!
According to medieval folklore, a SUCCUBUS is a demon that takes the form of a woman in order to have intercourse with a man in his dreams. The name comes from Old Latin, and means “to lie under.” In Islamic superstition, there is a similar demon called the qarinah or karina, and in ancient Middle Eastern cultures Lilith was the night demon's name. Whichever name is used, the essential qualities are the same: a demon who tempts men sexually at night and who tries to kill infants at birth.
The Bible in Proverbs 2:18-19, describes the dangers of the seductress or “strange woman” which is similar to SUCCUBUS.

I read somewhere that ‘SUCCUBUSES’ are drawn to those that are going through a “Emotionally Struggling” period in a guy’s life. One thing was really disturbing.  Am I emotionally struggling? Why did I see Deborah's face? Again why did this succubus attack? She has been to my room a couple of times. She has used my fridge to store her food, drank water from my dispenser, etc. I have never hit on her and don’t really intend to. I prayed about the dream seriously. Towards the end of the prayer I started to drift a bit, I used all my energy to focus till I finished the prayer and slept off immediately. I didn’t dream again.
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Friday, 7 June 2013

Conjoined Male Twin Delivered At University Of Nigeria Teaching Hospital
It’s been long I heard of cases of conjoined or Siamese twins. Conjoined male twin delivered at University of Nigeria Teaching Hospital five days ago through caesarean section. The conjoined twins are pictured on the rescucitaire and radiant warmer as the doctors are working round the clock to keep them alive.


Their abdomen and thorax are fused. 2D Echo showed that they have separate heart. Abdominal scan also showed that they have different abdominal organ.

Conjoined Male Twin Delivered At University Of Nigeria Teaching Hospital
When things like this happen the spiritual ask God why? Yes I know science will have a plausible answer why it happened. I just pray they get the care they need to survive. If there’s going to be a surgical operation to separate the conjoined twins, let it be successful.

someone suggested they should be taken to Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore, Maryland ASAP so that they can be separated before they get very strong. Funding may be a problem but think of them as yours. If you can assist in any please do. Children are the leaders of tomorrow.

Conjoined Male Twin Delivered At University Of Nigeria Teaching Hospital

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Conjoined Male Twin Delivered At University Of Nigeria Teaching Hospital
It’s been long I heard of cases of conjoined or Siamese twins. Conjoined male twin delivered at University of Nigeria Teaching Hospital five days ago through caesarean section. The conjoined twins are pictured on the rescucitaire and radiant warmer as the doctors are working round the clock to keep them alive.


Their abdomen and thorax are fused. 2D Echo showed that they have separate heart. Abdominal scan also showed that they have different abdominal organ.

Conjoined Male Twin Delivered At University Of Nigeria Teaching Hospital
When things like this happen the spiritual ask God why? Yes I know science will have a plausible answer why it happened. I just pray they get the care they need to survive. If there’s going to be a surgical operation to separate the conjoined twins, let it be successful.

someone suggested they should be taken to Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore, Maryland ASAP so that they can be separated before they get very strong. Funding may be a problem but think of them as yours. If you can assist in any please do. Children are the leaders of tomorrow.
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10 Effective Ways On How To Marry The Right Person, Relationship Tips, Successful Marriage
This is a nicely written piece about marriage. I think it addressed and stressed on a lot of peculiar issues or mistakes people make while courting or choosing a life partner. Read and apply to your life if you are single and wants to get married. If your are married already this won't help much.

1) Do Not Marry Potential:
Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change.  This is the wrong approach on both accounts.  Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential.  There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.  These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.

2) Choose Character over Chemistry:  
While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love.  The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:

Humility:
 The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort.  They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.

Kindness: The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money?  How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?

Responsibility: A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character.  You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.

Happiness:
 A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have.  They very rarely complain.


3) Do Not Neglect The  Emotional Needs of Your Partner:

Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved.  The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.  To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs:  Attention, Affection, & Appreciation.  To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs:  Respect, Reassurance, & Relief.

It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive.  When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his intimate desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.

4) Avoid Opposing Life Plans:
In marriage you can either grow together or grow apart. Sharing a common purpose in life will increase the chance that you will grow together.

You must know what the person is into. In other words, what are they ultimately passionate about?  Then ask yourself,

“Do I respect this passion?” “Do I respect what they are into?”
The more specifically you define yourself, i.e., your values, your beliefs, your lifestyle, the better chance you have of finding your life partner, your soul mate, the one you are most compatible with.
Remember, before you decide who to take along on a trip, you should first figure out your destination.


5) Avoid Pre-Marital intimate/Physical Activity:
Recognize that there is incredible wisdom in why God has ordered us to refrain from intimacy before marriage; they are to prevent great harms as well as to keep sacred what is the most blessed part of a relationship between a man and a woman.

Aside from the obvious spiritual consequences, when a relationship gets physical before its time, important issues like character, life philosophy, and compatibility go to the wayside. Consequently, everything is romanticized and it becomes difficult to even remember the important issues let alone talk about them.
Intellectual commitment must be established before emotional or intimate commitment.

6) Avoid Lack of Emotional Connection:
There are four questions that you must answer YES to:

Do I respect and admire this person?  What specifically do I respect and admire about this person?
Do I trust this person?  Can I rely on them?  Do I trust their judgment?  Do I trust their word? Can I believe what they say?
Do I feel Safe?  Do I feel emotionally safe with this person?  Can I be vulnerable?  Can I be myself?  Can I be open?  Can I express myself?
Do I feel calm and at peace with this person?
If the answer is “I don’t know, I’m not sure, etc.” keep evaluating until you know for sure and truly understand how you feel. If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married.  If you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!

7) Pay Attention to Your Own Emotional Anxiety:
Choosing someone you don’t feel safe with emotionally is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage.  Feeling emotionally safe is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage.  When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions.  Learn how to identify whether you are in an abusive relationship.  If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you are with someone and you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells, then it’s very likely you are in an abusive relationship.  Look for the following things:

Controlling behavior: This includes controlling the way you act, the way you think, the way you dress, the way you wear your hair/hijab and the way you spend your time.  Know the difference between suggestions and demands.  Demands are an expression of control and if the demands are implied, than you must do it or there will be consequences. All of these are clear indications of abusive personalities.

Anger issues:  This is someone who raises their voice on a regular basis, who is angry, gets angry at you, uses anger against you, uses put downs, and curses at you, etc.  You don’t have to put up with this type of treatment.  Many people who tolerate this behavior usually come from abusive backgrounds.  If this is the case with you or someone you know, get help right away.  Deal with those issues before getting married or before even thinking about getting married.

8) Beware of Lack of Openness In Your Partner:
Many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the onset.  Ask yourself, “What do I need to know to be absolutely certain I want to marry this person?” “What bothers me about this person or the relationship?”  It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you, things that concern you, and things you are afraid to bring up for discussion. Then you must have an honest discussion about them. This is a great way to test the strength of your relationship. Bringing up issues when there’s conflict is a great opportunity to really evaluate how well you communicate, negotiate, and work together as a team.  When people get into power struggles and blame each other, it’s an indication they don’t work well as a team.  Also important is being vulnerable around each other. Ask deep questions of each other and see how your partner responds.  How do they handle it?  Are they defensive?  Do they attack?  Do they withdraw?  Do they get annoyed?  Do they blame you?  Do they ignore it?  Do they hide or rationalize it?  Don’t just listen to what they say but watch for how they say it!

9) Beware of Avoiding Personal Responsibility:
It’s very important to remember no one else is responsible for your happiness. Many people make the mistake of thinking someone else will fulfill them and make their life better and that’s their reason for getting married.  People fail to realize that if they are unhappy as a single person, they will continue to be miserable when they are married.  If you are currently not happy with yourself, don’t like yourself, don’t like the direction your life is going now, it’s important to take responsibility for that now and work on improving those areas of your life before considering marriage.  Don’t bring these issues into your marriage and hope your partner will fix them.

10) Watch Out For Lack of Emotional Health and Availability In Your Potential Partner: 

Many people choose partners that are not emotionally healthy or available. One huge problem is when a partner is unable to balance the emotional ties to family members, the marriage ends up having 3 (or more) people in it rather than two. An example of this would be if a man is overly dependent on his mother and brings that relationship into the marriage; this is no doubt a recipe for disaster.  Also important to consider are the following:

Avoid people who are emotionally empty inside.  These include people who don’t like themselves because they lack the ability to be emotionally available. They are always preoccupied with their deficiencies, insecurities, and negative thoughts.  They are in a perpetual fight with depression, never feel good, are isolated, are critical and judgmental; tend to not have any close friends, and often distrust people or are afraid of them.  Another clear indication about them is they always feel their needs are not getting met; they have a sense of entitlement and feel angry when they feel people should take care of them and they don’t.

They feel burdened by other people’s needs and feel resentment towards them.  These people can not be emotionally available to build healthy relationships.
Addictions can also limit the level of availability of the partner to build a strong emotional relationship.  Never marry an addict.  Addictions are not limited to drugs and alcohol.  They can be about addictions and dependency on work, internet, hobbies, sports, shopping, money, power, status, materialism, etc.  When someone has an addiction, they will not and can not be emotionally available to develop an intimate relationship with you!

Additional Points to Consider:

The fact is no one looks 25 forever.  Ultimately, we love the person we marry for more than their appearance.  When we get to know someone we love and admire, we’ll love them for their inner beauty and overall essence.

Once we find someone, we consciously or subconsciously want so badly for it all to work that we decide not to question or see what is clearly in front of our eyes: they were rude to the waiter, speaks ill of others, is rude to you, etc.  We don’t stop to ask, “What does all of this mean about their character?”
Never separate someone from their family, background, education, belief system, etc.  Asking clear questions can clarify this.  Ask questions like, “What does it mean to have a simple lifestyle?” “What are your expectations of marriage?”  “How would you help around the house?” Compare your definition with theirs.

Be flexible.  Be open-minded!
Giving in a happy marriage should not be confused with martyrdom.  It should be about taking pleasure and seeing the other person as happy because of your connection with them.
Morality and spirituality are the qualities that truly define someone in addition to beauty, money, and health.  The morally upright and spiritual person will stand by your side during adversity and hardship.  If someone isn’t God-conscience and doesn’t take themselves into account with God then why should you expect them to fulfill their rights owed to you?

The ideal partner is someone who considers giving a gain and not causing a loss.  Having a mutual and shared spiritual relationship will foster a successful marriage.  Furthermore, a successful marriage is one that keeps the laws of family purity which require a certain degree of self-control and self-discipline, as well as the belief that the physical side of the relationship includes the spiritual and emotional side as well.  Finding commonality and balance between the spiritual and emotional aspects of a relationship is a strong key to a healthy and thriving marriage.

10 Effective Ways On How To Marry The Right Person

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10 Effective Ways On How To Marry The Right Person, Relationship Tips, Successful Marriage
This is a nicely written piece about marriage. I think it addressed and stressed on a lot of peculiar issues or mistakes people make while courting or choosing a life partner. Read and apply to your life if you are single and wants to get married. If your are married already this won't help much.

1) Do Not Marry Potential:
Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change.  This is the wrong approach on both accounts.  Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential.  There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.  These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.

2) Choose Character over Chemistry:  
While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love.  The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:

Humility:
 The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort.  They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.

Kindness: The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money?  How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?

Responsibility: A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character.  You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.

Happiness:
 A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have.  They very rarely complain.


3) Do Not Neglect The  Emotional Needs of Your Partner:

Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved.  The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.  To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs:  Attention, Affection, & Appreciation.  To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs:  Respect, Reassurance, & Relief.

It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive.  When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his intimate desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.

4) Avoid Opposing Life Plans:
In marriage you can either grow together or grow apart. Sharing a common purpose in life will increase the chance that you will grow together.

You must know what the person is into. In other words, what are they ultimately passionate about?  Then ask yourself,

“Do I respect this passion?” “Do I respect what they are into?”
The more specifically you define yourself, i.e., your values, your beliefs, your lifestyle, the better chance you have of finding your life partner, your soul mate, the one you are most compatible with.
Remember, before you decide who to take along on a trip, you should first figure out your destination.


5) Avoid Pre-Marital intimate/Physical Activity:
Recognize that there is incredible wisdom in why God has ordered us to refrain from intimacy before marriage; they are to prevent great harms as well as to keep sacred what is the most blessed part of a relationship between a man and a woman.

Aside from the obvious spiritual consequences, when a relationship gets physical before its time, important issues like character, life philosophy, and compatibility go to the wayside. Consequently, everything is romanticized and it becomes difficult to even remember the important issues let alone talk about them.
Intellectual commitment must be established before emotional or intimate commitment.

6) Avoid Lack of Emotional Connection:
There are four questions that you must answer YES to:

Do I respect and admire this person?  What specifically do I respect and admire about this person?
Do I trust this person?  Can I rely on them?  Do I trust their judgment?  Do I trust their word? Can I believe what they say?
Do I feel Safe?  Do I feel emotionally safe with this person?  Can I be vulnerable?  Can I be myself?  Can I be open?  Can I express myself?
Do I feel calm and at peace with this person?
If the answer is “I don’t know, I’m not sure, etc.” keep evaluating until you know for sure and truly understand how you feel. If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married.  If you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!

7) Pay Attention to Your Own Emotional Anxiety:
Choosing someone you don’t feel safe with emotionally is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage.  Feeling emotionally safe is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage.  When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions.  Learn how to identify whether you are in an abusive relationship.  If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you are with someone and you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells, then it’s very likely you are in an abusive relationship.  Look for the following things:

Controlling behavior: This includes controlling the way you act, the way you think, the way you dress, the way you wear your hair/hijab and the way you spend your time.  Know the difference between suggestions and demands.  Demands are an expression of control and if the demands are implied, than you must do it or there will be consequences. All of these are clear indications of abusive personalities.

Anger issues:  This is someone who raises their voice on a regular basis, who is angry, gets angry at you, uses anger against you, uses put downs, and curses at you, etc.  You don’t have to put up with this type of treatment.  Many people who tolerate this behavior usually come from abusive backgrounds.  If this is the case with you or someone you know, get help right away.  Deal with those issues before getting married or before even thinking about getting married.

8) Beware of Lack of Openness In Your Partner:
Many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the onset.  Ask yourself, “What do I need to know to be absolutely certain I want to marry this person?” “What bothers me about this person or the relationship?”  It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you, things that concern you, and things you are afraid to bring up for discussion. Then you must have an honest discussion about them. This is a great way to test the strength of your relationship. Bringing up issues when there’s conflict is a great opportunity to really evaluate how well you communicate, negotiate, and work together as a team.  When people get into power struggles and blame each other, it’s an indication they don’t work well as a team.  Also important is being vulnerable around each other. Ask deep questions of each other and see how your partner responds.  How do they handle it?  Are they defensive?  Do they attack?  Do they withdraw?  Do they get annoyed?  Do they blame you?  Do they ignore it?  Do they hide or rationalize it?  Don’t just listen to what they say but watch for how they say it!

9) Beware of Avoiding Personal Responsibility:
It’s very important to remember no one else is responsible for your happiness. Many people make the mistake of thinking someone else will fulfill them and make their life better and that’s their reason for getting married.  People fail to realize that if they are unhappy as a single person, they will continue to be miserable when they are married.  If you are currently not happy with yourself, don’t like yourself, don’t like the direction your life is going now, it’s important to take responsibility for that now and work on improving those areas of your life before considering marriage.  Don’t bring these issues into your marriage and hope your partner will fix them.

10) Watch Out For Lack of Emotional Health and Availability In Your Potential Partner: 

Many people choose partners that are not emotionally healthy or available. One huge problem is when a partner is unable to balance the emotional ties to family members, the marriage ends up having 3 (or more) people in it rather than two. An example of this would be if a man is overly dependent on his mother and brings that relationship into the marriage; this is no doubt a recipe for disaster.  Also important to consider are the following:

Avoid people who are emotionally empty inside.  These include people who don’t like themselves because they lack the ability to be emotionally available. They are always preoccupied with their deficiencies, insecurities, and negative thoughts.  They are in a perpetual fight with depression, never feel good, are isolated, are critical and judgmental; tend to not have any close friends, and often distrust people or are afraid of them.  Another clear indication about them is they always feel their needs are not getting met; they have a sense of entitlement and feel angry when they feel people should take care of them and they don’t.

They feel burdened by other people’s needs and feel resentment towards them.  These people can not be emotionally available to build healthy relationships.
Addictions can also limit the level of availability of the partner to build a strong emotional relationship.  Never marry an addict.  Addictions are not limited to drugs and alcohol.  They can be about addictions and dependency on work, internet, hobbies, sports, shopping, money, power, status, materialism, etc.  When someone has an addiction, they will not and can not be emotionally available to develop an intimate relationship with you!

Additional Points to Consider:

The fact is no one looks 25 forever.  Ultimately, we love the person we marry for more than their appearance.  When we get to know someone we love and admire, we’ll love them for their inner beauty and overall essence.

Once we find someone, we consciously or subconsciously want so badly for it all to work that we decide not to question or see what is clearly in front of our eyes: they were rude to the waiter, speaks ill of others, is rude to you, etc.  We don’t stop to ask, “What does all of this mean about their character?”
Never separate someone from their family, background, education, belief system, etc.  Asking clear questions can clarify this.  Ask questions like, “What does it mean to have a simple lifestyle?” “What are your expectations of marriage?”  “How would you help around the house?” Compare your definition with theirs.

Be flexible.  Be open-minded!
Giving in a happy marriage should not be confused with martyrdom.  It should be about taking pleasure and seeing the other person as happy because of your connection with them.
Morality and spirituality are the qualities that truly define someone in addition to beauty, money, and health.  The morally upright and spiritual person will stand by your side during adversity and hardship.  If someone isn’t God-conscience and doesn’t take themselves into account with God then why should you expect them to fulfill their rights owed to you?

The ideal partner is someone who considers giving a gain and not causing a loss.  Having a mutual and shared spiritual relationship will foster a successful marriage.  Furthermore, a successful marriage is one that keeps the laws of family purity which require a certain degree of self-control and self-discipline, as well as the belief that the physical side of the relationship includes the spiritual and emotional side as well.  Finding commonality and balance between the spiritual and emotional aspects of a relationship is a strong key to a healthy and thriving marriage.
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Thursday, 6 June 2013

You Will Be A Real Bishop One Day – Words Of My Mother
Growing up was very adventurous for me. I was a very super curious kid. My curiosity is not the type that seeks answers by asking questions. No that’s boring. Not that I don’t ask questions at all, I ask when I can’t absolutely help it. it’s the Thomas Edison kind. I prefer empirical approach. I like practical things. I’m the seeing-is-believing kinda guy though no relations to doubting Thomas in the Bible. For instance when they write; “don’t dispose in fire even when empty”, I will like to dispose in fire to know exactly what will happen and not just they say. I was Mr. Experiment. Growing up too I had so many nicknames. If I earn a dollar for every nickname I had, Bill Gate will probably be one of my numerous paid staff. More than 90% of these names were inadvertently or intentionally imposed on me by people. The rest I consciously gave myself.

One of the outstanding nicknames I gave myself was BISHOP LYNX. This sleek nick really stood the test of time. Most people still call me Bishop till today. I don’t mind. I had a fine little graffiti art of the name designed by me on the wall of my room back then. Some added something to the name like Bishop without Diocese. It’s expected of people especially one’s peers. My dear mother, Da Wewe as we fondly call her somehow approved the name because of the Bishop part of it. My mum is staunch member of Methodist Church. She is a heavy weight in the women’s choir. I used to write her choir sofa notation for her. Me and my siblings used to practice her sofa notation with her too. We prefer singing the sofa notation to the main song.

It’s a mystery, I don’t know how or why I chose Bishop, but I know why I chose Lynx. My dear mother would say the name Bishop is divinely given to me by God because I’m going to be a real Bishop someday and preach the word of God. I will laugh at her. Me? Be a Bishop and preach? It’s inconceivable! At that moment I was the least serious with church activities in my house, everybody else was plugged in. My brother was in the band and technical department. My sisters were in the choir. My dad used to be in men’s choir but now, never mind. Me, I didn’t even qualify as a Sunday-Sunday church goer. I used to be a heavy weight in the children’s church. I was one of the children that attend competition for our church. But that was before I left to live with my auntie in Enugu.

Those were donkey and camel years ago. Now I’m a grown man earning a living in this chaotic configuration called Lagos. No I’m not earning a living as a bishop or preacher. There were moments when people call me pastor, some say I look like a pastor. How does a pastor look? Whenever people say that, the words of my mother come to mind. What common “look” can one see when you look at Chris Oyakilome, E. A. Adeboye, T.B. Joshua, Daniel Olukoya, etc? However this year 2013, I decided to increase my spiritual life by at least going to church more. It was one of my New Year resolutions. Judging by my adulterous relationship with New Year resolutions I didn’t think this one stood a different chance. Proudly let me announce I’ve never missed any Sunday service this year. It may mean nothing to you but it is a remarkable feat to me.

You Will Be A Real Bishop One Day – Words Of My Mother
Funto Annam
I took it further by joining the workers in training program, I’ve always wanted to be active in church for God. I started it and God willing I ended it well at RCCG Workers’ Retreat/Graduation at Atican beach on 29th May 2013. During my introduction, pastor’s wife Funto Annam made a comment. She said among other things; “He took the Open Heavens once, I think he has a hidden potential that needs to be tapped.” The words of my dear mother possessed my thoughts immediately. She said Hidden Potential, of preaching? I know I poured in my all in preparing for that Open Heavens. I wasn’t 100% impressed with my delivery even though I know it was good, I didn’t know it will be worth mentioning today. I’m mighty happy that it was mentioned though. I pondered at the prophetic words of my mother and the pragmatic words of pastor’s wife, if only she knew about the words of my mother.

I still don’t feel like I can be a real bishop. One thing I know is that I enjoyed teaching during my NYSC deployment. I did with my whole heart. It was a quintessential picture of doing what you love. I even organized extra mural classes for free! I do have this desire to be lecturer or teacher. I subtly constrained to do MBA in Unilag. I didn’t think it through, and otherwise it would’ve been pure masters in a particular subject that way it’s easier to ease into the lecturer profession. MBA is a professional course while a pure master is an academics course. The

Whether it matures to reality or not I walk around with the words of my mother safe in my heart. I LOVE THAT WOMAN. She is a woman of virtue! GOD BLESS HER!

You Will Be A Real Bishop One Day – Words Of My Mother

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You Will Be A Real Bishop One Day – Words Of My Mother
Growing up was very adventurous for me. I was a very super curious kid. My curiosity is not the type that seeks answers by asking questions. No that’s boring. Not that I don’t ask questions at all, I ask when I can’t absolutely help it. it’s the Thomas Edison kind. I prefer empirical approach. I like practical things. I’m the seeing-is-believing kinda guy though no relations to doubting Thomas in the Bible. For instance when they write; “don’t dispose in fire even when empty”, I will like to dispose in fire to know exactly what will happen and not just they say. I was Mr. Experiment. Growing up too I had so many nicknames. If I earn a dollar for every nickname I had, Bill Gate will probably be one of my numerous paid staff. More than 90% of these names were inadvertently or intentionally imposed on me by people. The rest I consciously gave myself.

One of the outstanding nicknames I gave myself was BISHOP LYNX. This sleek nick really stood the test of time. Most people still call me Bishop till today. I don’t mind. I had a fine little graffiti art of the name designed by me on the wall of my room back then. Some added something to the name like Bishop without Diocese. It’s expected of people especially one’s peers. My dear mother, Da Wewe as we fondly call her somehow approved the name because of the Bishop part of it. My mum is staunch member of Methodist Church. She is a heavy weight in the women’s choir. I used to write her choir sofa notation for her. Me and my siblings used to practice her sofa notation with her too. We prefer singing the sofa notation to the main song.

It’s a mystery, I don’t know how or why I chose Bishop, but I know why I chose Lynx. My dear mother would say the name Bishop is divinely given to me by God because I’m going to be a real Bishop someday and preach the word of God. I will laugh at her. Me? Be a Bishop and preach? It’s inconceivable! At that moment I was the least serious with church activities in my house, everybody else was plugged in. My brother was in the band and technical department. My sisters were in the choir. My dad used to be in men’s choir but now, never mind. Me, I didn’t even qualify as a Sunday-Sunday church goer. I used to be a heavy weight in the children’s church. I was one of the children that attend competition for our church. But that was before I left to live with my auntie in Enugu.

Those were donkey and camel years ago. Now I’m a grown man earning a living in this chaotic configuration called Lagos. No I’m not earning a living as a bishop or preacher. There were moments when people call me pastor, some say I look like a pastor. How does a pastor look? Whenever people say that, the words of my mother come to mind. What common “look” can one see when you look at Chris Oyakilome, E. A. Adeboye, T.B. Joshua, Daniel Olukoya, etc? However this year 2013, I decided to increase my spiritual life by at least going to church more. It was one of my New Year resolutions. Judging by my adulterous relationship with New Year resolutions I didn’t think this one stood a different chance. Proudly let me announce I’ve never missed any Sunday service this year. It may mean nothing to you but it is a remarkable feat to me.

You Will Be A Real Bishop One Day – Words Of My Mother
Funto Annam
I took it further by joining the workers in training program, I’ve always wanted to be active in church for God. I started it and God willing I ended it well at RCCG Workers’ Retreat/Graduation at Atican beach on 29th May 2013. During my introduction, pastor’s wife Funto Annam made a comment. She said among other things; “He took the Open Heavens once, I think he has a hidden potential that needs to be tapped.” The words of my dear mother possessed my thoughts immediately. She said Hidden Potential, of preaching? I know I poured in my all in preparing for that Open Heavens. I wasn’t 100% impressed with my delivery even though I know it was good, I didn’t know it will be worth mentioning today. I’m mighty happy that it was mentioned though. I pondered at the prophetic words of my mother and the pragmatic words of pastor’s wife, if only she knew about the words of my mother.

I still don’t feel like I can be a real bishop. One thing I know is that I enjoyed teaching during my NYSC deployment. I did with my whole heart. It was a quintessential picture of doing what you love. I even organized extra mural classes for free! I do have this desire to be lecturer or teacher. I subtly constrained to do MBA in Unilag. I didn’t think it through, and otherwise it would’ve been pure masters in a particular subject that way it’s easier to ease into the lecturer profession. MBA is a professional course while a pure master is an academics course. The

Whether it matures to reality or not I walk around with the words of my mother safe in my heart. I LOVE THAT WOMAN. She is a woman of virtue! GOD BLESS HER!
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MTN Nigeria Service Is Freaking Annoying! Friday May 31 2013
2013 is gradually running out. Today is 31 May already! How time flies. This time last year I closed my eyes, endured and ignored all the excesses of Ibe and family and we all lived happily ever after. But on another realm their excesses kept chipping away at my patience. I wonder where he is. I wonder how he is doing. He hasn't posted any sublime status on Facebook or I missed it. Not like I'm tracking his sublime status updates lol. I don't make it habit of going to his page to see something that don't add value to me rather it diminishes the value I placed on him.

I read my open heavens and prayed. I took my bath and went to my place earning a living. I was the first. I shot some hoops with our waste paper basket first then cleaned up the place. Ifeanyi came moments after the place was all cleaned up. Immediately he challenged me to our usual hoop contest lol. I extended the distance to make it more interesting. And that was how I dug my own grave. I scored first but he beat me the worst way, 7-1! The game ended at 9-5. He went to bring MD to the office from his house. I’m off to the banks already. I had to cash a cheque so the mechanic can be paid. The mechanic gave me a small cut out his pay, that’s generous of him today.

For months for me, MTN Nigeria service has been freaking annoying. I went to MTN office at The Palms from the bank. This is the third time I’m going to their office for the same issue not being able to call or text despite having airtime on my phone. I always meet a different person each time I go there. The lady that served me today actually was the best. She knows the problem very well and also knows the crude option MTN is forcing people to take instead of resolving the issue. She explained it’s a data problem. She said MTN has instructed them to shove two options down the throat of their customer, if the customer doesn’t like it he/she can go hug an electricity transformer. I added the go hug a transformer part. Option one is that MTN is forcing you to subscribe to a data plan, it could be daily, weekly or monthly.


I think for MTN, the customer is always wrong.

MTN is a greedy wicked criminal company. I don’t want any data plan. I’m perfectly okay without a plan, why force me to take a plan instead of investing in your infrastructure to give customers worth for their money? The other option was to turn of data usage on your phone. I browse on my phone why would I do that? MTN you make me sick. I so wish I can sue you right now. Every time there is a fault it always the customer that suffers. MTN Nigeria service is freaking annoying! I’m so pissed with this company right now.

I left their office really mad, if only our government is effective to sanction this bastard company. I gotta cal my nerves before I go kamikaze on them. I bought some soft drinks and went to Ugo’s house. He called earlier letting me know they moved to the house because of power issue at the office. I ate there. We worked from there. He gave me and Godwin N15,000 and N25,000 respectively as part payment of our salary. The rest comes on Monday.

Work closed early today, I like it. Golf game is on tomorrow I don’t feel like going. Ugo wants me and Ifeanyi to come just help him with the kids. I don’t think I wanna do that. Let’s see how it goes. I went home had a good long sleep. Amara came around to cook soup. She prepared okra soup, I don’t like the way she prepares hers. She left some for me, I’m not sure what I’m gonna do with it yet. I appreciate the gesture.

I wanted to ask her about their plans to take their remaining things to wherever they sleep now. And also let her know I will be removing the spare key, in other words denying them access without permission, but I didn’t. Let me observe them some more before my final irreversible decision.

MTN Nigeria Service Is Freaking Annoying! Friday May 31 2013

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MTN Nigeria Service Is Freaking Annoying! Friday May 31 2013
2013 is gradually running out. Today is 31 May already! How time flies. This time last year I closed my eyes, endured and ignored all the excesses of Ibe and family and we all lived happily ever after. But on another realm their excesses kept chipping away at my patience. I wonder where he is. I wonder how he is doing. He hasn't posted any sublime status on Facebook or I missed it. Not like I'm tracking his sublime status updates lol. I don't make it habit of going to his page to see something that don't add value to me rather it diminishes the value I placed on him.

I read my open heavens and prayed. I took my bath and went to my place earning a living. I was the first. I shot some hoops with our waste paper basket first then cleaned up the place. Ifeanyi came moments after the place was all cleaned up. Immediately he challenged me to our usual hoop contest lol. I extended the distance to make it more interesting. And that was how I dug my own grave. I scored first but he beat me the worst way, 7-1! The game ended at 9-5. He went to bring MD to the office from his house. I’m off to the banks already. I had to cash a cheque so the mechanic can be paid. The mechanic gave me a small cut out his pay, that’s generous of him today.

For months for me, MTN Nigeria service has been freaking annoying. I went to MTN office at The Palms from the bank. This is the third time I’m going to their office for the same issue not being able to call or text despite having airtime on my phone. I always meet a different person each time I go there. The lady that served me today actually was the best. She knows the problem very well and also knows the crude option MTN is forcing people to take instead of resolving the issue. She explained it’s a data problem. She said MTN has instructed them to shove two options down the throat of their customer, if the customer doesn’t like it he/she can go hug an electricity transformer. I added the go hug a transformer part. Option one is that MTN is forcing you to subscribe to a data plan, it could be daily, weekly or monthly.


I think for MTN, the customer is always wrong.

MTN is a greedy wicked criminal company. I don’t want any data plan. I’m perfectly okay without a plan, why force me to take a plan instead of investing in your infrastructure to give customers worth for their money? The other option was to turn of data usage on your phone. I browse on my phone why would I do that? MTN you make me sick. I so wish I can sue you right now. Every time there is a fault it always the customer that suffers. MTN Nigeria service is freaking annoying! I’m so pissed with this company right now.

I left their office really mad, if only our government is effective to sanction this bastard company. I gotta cal my nerves before I go kamikaze on them. I bought some soft drinks and went to Ugo’s house. He called earlier letting me know they moved to the house because of power issue at the office. I ate there. We worked from there. He gave me and Godwin N15,000 and N25,000 respectively as part payment of our salary. The rest comes on Monday.

Work closed early today, I like it. Golf game is on tomorrow I don’t feel like going. Ugo wants me and Ifeanyi to come just help him with the kids. I don’t think I wanna do that. Let’s see how it goes. I went home had a good long sleep. Amara came around to cook soup. She prepared okra soup, I don’t like the way she prepares hers. She left some for me, I’m not sure what I’m gonna do with it yet. I appreciate the gesture.

I wanted to ask her about their plans to take their remaining things to wherever they sleep now. And also let her know I will be removing the spare key, in other words denying them access without permission, but I didn’t. Let me observe them some more before my final irreversible decision.
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